Based on this video. Focus: Cleavage. Do you look? Have you been caught? Do you care? My take? Yeah, if you're showing, I'm looking. Get mad, call a cop, I don't give a shit. If you don't want me to look, don't put them on display in public. And yes, I look when I'm with my wife. Yes, she knows. No, don't really care.
The best part of the video was when they randomly decided to show the reporter, who looked like a bizarro version of Anjelica Huston.
Isn't that the fucking point? To show off your tits? So others will look, admire, and hold you in slutty esteem?
It does if you're not craning your neck like an owl. My boss occasionally does that and it's hilarious yet sad to watch. As far as I'm concerned, if you don't want people looking, don't dress so that they're hanging out. Guys need to not stare. Look, appreciate, move on.
Exactly. It's not a feature film, and if you stare you're a creep who lacks self-awareness or just a creep who doesn't give a shit. Or very, very tired and I was just happened to blankly stare in the direction of your cleavage. (My typical excuse)
Sunglasses totally work as long as you're not a fucking moron. Look people straight in the eye and then just move your eyes to where you want to look. A good pair of costas will turn your eyes into a colorful mirror.
I think it is very simple: - Men who "ogle" cleavage are men that like to look at cleavage. Otherwise there's no reason to be doing so... obviously. - Except in certain specific circumstances, women are the sole arbiters on how they display their cleavage and to what degree. - All bullshit aside, women know that there are men who will look. Push "they shouldn't look" to the side. They will if they get the opportunity. Go live in Fairyland if you can't accept that. - If a woman puts the goods on display and goes out in public, there's a good chance some guy, somewhere, will try to get an eyeful. It has to be an accepted risk. Pile all the culture and manners on it that you want, we're still talking about a non-invasive, basic urge. Cut it down to the simplest form and you have a female form of display that accentuates her breasts and a reciprocation by a male of observing the display. We're not talking about taking it any further than looking - that can start down the road to creepy. Just because men are more direct in their ogling than a more peripheral vision enhanced gender, it doesn't mean that they should wear the blame. Wear what you want. But, if you don't want it looked at then don't put it on display. No shop every put a product in their front window that they didn't want passersby looking at.
I glance, and try not to stare. Every now and then management threatens to crack down on cleavage at work. Why the fuck do they think I came to work in an environment that's 95% women? (oink)
I love how this discussion always ends up being "Well, if you don't want us to look then never, ever have cleavage" as if guys don't look at boobs when they're totally covered too. I really, really hate language that's anything like "If women didn't want sexual attention from a man then they wouldn't/shouldn't have dressed like that" for many, many reasons, but this is too lighthearted of a thread to go into it. It just needed to be even offhandedly mentioned. That being said, however, it was ridiculous to include the SI model in a bikini rubbing herself when wagging a finger at guys for looking at boobs. That... is kind of the point for what she was doing. There is a huge difference between that and, say, the girl ringing up your groceries, or even the woman in the first bit. It's stupid to lump all of that together. Does it bother me if I catch it happening when I wasn't intentionally dressing sexily and was just wearing a dress that didn't have the neckline up at my clavicle? Yeah, a flicker of annoyance, discomfort, and vulnerability usually occurs. But, hey, I usually can't help but visually acknowledge that titties are in my general vicinity too. As long as it's a passing glance and not a lecherous stare - especially if they're a stranger, I don't care. If they're not staring at them instead of looking at my face while I'm talking to them about anything other than dirty talk, I don't care. If my safety doesn't feel threatened, I don't care. Like almost everything, it depends on context. The amount of time the guy the "news" was about spent staring at the woman's boobs and the setting they were in made it gross, creepy, and inappropriate.
I felt bad in Sam's today because I was trying to see if the woman I needed help from was actually an employee, and her name tag was pinned right beside her enormous cleavage. If I felt pervy for trying to find her friggin name tag then I think it is time to dress a little differently. That's all I'm sayin'.
I believe I have perfected the use of reflections in windows, mirrors any pretty much any surface that will throw a reflection in the pursuit of having a look at nice boobs.
Ladies, we all know that almost all guys do this... However, does the level of attractiveness change the way you feel about it? i.e. Creepy looking chester the molester vs. a very attractive guy. Does that have any impact on how you feel about getting checked out by them, or does it skeeve you out regardless?
I don't really mind if guys glance. A quick glance is human nature. It's when you stare that it becomes creepy, and it doesn't matter if he's cute or not, staring makes you less attractive. That being said, you have to understand how women's clothing is designed. The larger your breast size, the harder it is to find clothing that doesn't look slutty. I'm a C cup and I have trouble finding a shirt that covers both my cleavage and my stomach. Super long shirts make you look shorter than you actually are. So for me, cleavage is the lesser of two evils in the battle between my breast and my stomach. So glance all you want, but if you stare, don't get upset when someone calls you on it.
Oh, please. Displaying skin is done specifically for the purpose of being noticed, to the point where psychologists can predict which women in a public place are ovulating by measuring skirt length. If you get annoyed with some guy staring, it is not because he has transgressed against one of your bullshit feminist rationalizations. It is because he is the wrong kind of guy; too clueless, too ugly, too old. "Hey asshole, these aren't for you!" Of course, it doesn't mesh with the phony ideals you learned in political science class to admit that the instinct that made you take offence with being ogled at by some idiot is just as shallow as the one that made him stare in the first place. So the dance of dishonesty keeps going. I don't blame men for staring, nor women for disliking being stared at by the wrong guy. It is all hardwired. But can we please ditch the lofty speeches and just admit we are all vile, sex-crazed slaves to the biological imperative?
I'm not really bothered by it, unless it's some old, creepy dude or I'm in a bad mood. I had a breast reduction done last year and I think I actually notice more men looking now than before. Go figure. I dressed conservative pre-reduction and now I feel more confident so I'll wear outfits that show a little more. If anything when I notice a guy looking and he's not being creepy, it makes me feel good as I go on and continue my day.