Nett posted this up in the WDT and its a topic on Reddit right now as well. Friends and relationships are a complicated issue. When I was in my first serious relationship (relative term) right out of high school, I neglected most of my friends for a long time. Her friends became my friends and that was the circle we ran with during the course of our relationship. When it ended, I basically crawled back to my old group, and all of them called me out on it immediately. When I got engaged, another weird dynamic happened. Most of my non-engaged or married friends starting dropping off the map. Not at the fault of my fiance or anything, she lets me do whatever I want. I just dont hear from them as much and I find myself putting in much more effort into those relationships than what is reciprocated. They like my fiance just fine and she gets along great with them, they just seem to distance themselves. Conversely, Ive grown a lot closer with friends that are engaged or married. I met a high school buddy for breakfast over the weekend penis who has a kid now, and asked him about it, and the same thing basically happened to him, but it compounded once he had a kid. Now all his friends are other parents. Focus: Do people really lose friends as a result of having relationships or kids, or is it merely a result of the amount of time:effort that it takes to maintain those relationships once priorities change? Also, I'm going to keep bumping my own threads until more than 1 or 2 people start putting suggestions in there.