Re: Thread Suggestion Thread 101 Everyday Ways For Men To Be Allies To Women. A girl I went to grad school with posted that article and called out #7. "Stop assuming that random girls like you just because they smile at you and make eye contact." I'm not exactly sure where I read it, but I know I've read an article that discusses men are hard coded to believe women are more attracted to them than they actually are, hence taking smiles or minor gestures and turning them into "she wants my seed!" Focus: This list. Discuss. Anything any of you have been doing to be less of a male chauvinistic pig? Alt-Focus: That list links to THIS article that is really not helpful at all given its title. The Feminist Guide to Non-Creepy Flirting
My advice to the author would be; print out that list, roll it up real nice and neat and tight, then take that list and shove it up your overly entitled, hypergamous, solipsistic ass. Biatch.
"Walk on the other side of the street when a woman is walking towards you at night." Are we all rapists now? The fuck?
Mrs. (Ms?) Noland is the Waspiest Wasp that ever Wasped. Since I'm pretty sure privileged white society is to blame for all of the horrors (real and imagined) this dude is talking about, should I really spend that much time studying her culture? Seems counter productive. He listed 101 things and he could have just said, "Treat women like adult human beings" and been done with it. Because I'm bored and apparently a glutton for punishment I read some more of this guy's stuff. He identifies himself as "cisgender". I had to look that up. The definition of cisgender is "individuals who have a match between the gender they were assigned at birth, their bodies, and their personal identity". So he's a guy. A guy who actively sought out a special and vaguely confusing title for himself to call himself a guy. This guy sucks.
There's a lot of good stuff on that list, but I think it would be more effective if it was condensed/whittled down to 10 or 15 points. This guy goes a little overboard and comes off a bit sanctimonious or insecure, I can't tell which. Personally, I am trying to be less of a chauvinistic pig. As a young man who was easily influenced and watched too much porn, I used to be kind of a jerk to women. I'm not proud of how I treated some people in college, at all. Now I basically just try to treat people like human beings. Kind of shocking that it took me twenty-some years to figure that out. EDIT: Now that I think about it, I kind of hate that article/list. By adding in all the stupid (or at least stupidly presented) points that we're making fun of, it becomes all to easy to dismiss the entire message as meaningless liberal PC bullshit. I think women put up with a lot of shit they shouldn't have to, and this kind of writing doesn't really do a whole lot to help. EDIT 2: I bet the author looks like this guy.
If you're a straight male and don't actively participate in feminist activities, according to them, you might as well be a rapist.
I made it to number 10 before I quit. I used to be really paranoid about how I treated women. It's a quagmire of self analysis. This guy is so progressive his brains leak out.
Bio Page(for some reason I can't cut and paste the photo): <a class="postlink" href="http://michaelurbina.com/category/about-me/" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;">http://michaelurbina.com/category/about-me/</a>
Either gay or a clueless hetero virgin. <a class="postlink" href="http://michaelurbina.com/about-me/" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;">http://michaelurbina.com/about-me/</a> Other "Men" ?
The guy who wrote this is a desperate attention whore who is completely full of it. You're majoring in this, yet you are already the foremost expert? He's just a student re-shovelling the shit he hears in class and regurgitates it on his blog. He either mentions common sense things that anyone on this board already knew simply from being alive, or complete fake-progressive "sensitive" bullshit. Fucking clown probably has an acoustic guitar in his dorm room right now. This is rectally-produced nonsense. Goes great with the other things in your garbage. I love the guy's bad teenage moustache too. Not creepy whatsoever.
This. Even as a woman and a feminist, this list got a little ridiculous. But I have to echo #5: Stop catcalling. From a car window driving by is just annoying, from a porch or across the street can be intimidating, but walking by a group of men who are catcalling you and/or saying lewd things can be really scary. And btw, I think his use of the term cisgender is an acknowledgment of his privilege in that regard. "I'm a guy" could be said by anyone who identifies as male, whether he's cis, trans or otherwise.
I truthfully don't know anything about feminism, but after reading that article and googling some of the things like "patriarchy" and "privilege" and "rape culture"... why the fuck would any guy call themself a feminist? Is that what modern feminists think, because it seems like they are in a competition to prove how bad they have it. Take for example this list that they linked to in number one. Look at what their examples of the privileges of being a male are, most of it is complete conjecture with no sources to back up any of the claims they are saying. Most of the things are just outright false, in no way benefit me as a man, or are more complicated than simply being a clear-cut gender issue, or at the very least aren't as serious as whoever came up with that would probably want you to believe. I suggest that whoever believes in whatever it is I just read take number 77 from the list of 101 to heart. Edit Maybe I'm way off here, but I would venture a guess that whoever came up with the term "cisgender" probably was not "cisgender" themselves. It seems like another way for people to differentiate themselves from people who supposedly have "privilege" so that they can claim to be oppressed in some way.
How did this thread get bumped? Is Parker a moderator now? To stay on topic, I think most of what that guy said in the article is total bullshit. Examples: When, in the history of ever, has a father gotten a pass for being late/not showing up to work over his kid? My mother has been dead for almost 20 years, dipshit. And I'm glad she's dead.
He is majoring in being a "nice guy". He probably wonders why girls go for dudes with balls. Also, that is totally how Manny from Modern family will turn out. A book I was reading summed up the appearance of the "cis" title like this: Transgender people thought that since they had a term, "trans" they ought to stick it to the "normals" and make up a term for them.
That's what I imagine someone who uses that term seriously thinks whenever they say it. That's about as effective as calling a white person a cracker or a honkey.
I understand consent is important, but this guy makes it seem like you have to ask for it AT ALL TIMES. "Is it ok if I flip you over and put you on all fours so I can have intercourse with you from behind?" "Would it be allright if I grab your left breast now? How about the right one?" "Would you mind if I pined you against my car and kissed you strongly enough that you forget your name? I'm sorry, I realize that is masculine and aggressive." This guy (and his partners) must be having really boring sex.