(If this gets picked up, feel free to come up with a more creative subject. I know it's lame.) Now that my friends have all basically fallen into having types, I've found that I've been surprised by all of them. My best friend who's all sassy and cool only falls for totally dweeby guys. My friend who I thought was just going through the usual bi phase in college and therefore would be attracted to lipstick lesbians now exclusively dates bulldykes who look like straight up dudes. Another one of my bi friends, who I thought would be more into the butch type, likes really feminine girls. Another one of my friends LOVES guys who look like they're sixteen and are really good at math. Focus: What's your type? Is it unexpected? No one's ever surprised at my type. Almost every single guy I've ever been involved with or had a crush on falls into one of two categories: Type One: Tall, dark, handsome, brooding, Byronic hero types who are viciously intelligent, emotionally unavailable, and usually some kind of artist (writers included). They usually have a hidden sensitive side though (hence all that brooding). They also have a similar sense of humor as I do. Type Two: More of a "boy next door" type who's scruffy, friendly, and has some kind of hobby or job where they work with their hands. They build things or cook or farm or something, and they're usually entrepreneurial. They're the kind of guys you go backpacking across South America with. I've never been attracted to someone who isn't at least a little creative, and they almost always have some kind of secret contradiction, like the motorcycle riding-rock climbing-weight lifting guy who plays the violin and writes sonnets, or the Marine who wants to be a baker once his Mariney-ness is done. The guys I've fallen hardest for are a combination of the two types. I can only think of one exception of someone I've dated that didn't fall into one of these types, and that was when I got randomly swept up in Boston culture and dated an Irish kid from Southie. Those were a strange couple of months. I can't even think of many people I've just hooked up with that weren't one of these types either. Sigh.