I think most people are aware of the phrase Cartman said when he was on the Jerry Springer Show pretending to be an out of control teenager. In real life, I think we're all faced with a daily struggle of doing what we want versus doing what we perceive others want. In the work place, in relationships, hell even with friends of the same sex, the struggle between doing what you want versus doing what others want is a constant theme in life. Me personally, I do what I want!, however, there is a price to pay for that. Doing what you want can be seen as strong and as a leadership characteristic,on the flip side it can be seen as obstinate and annoying. There is certaintly no right answer and there is certainly no formula to make everyone happy Focus In your day to day life do you do as you please or do you find yourself trying to make others happy so that they're happy with you? Unfocus When have you done as you pleased and it backfired? Altneratively, when have you tried to make someone else happy only to find things went wrong anyway? Alt focus When have you done as you wanted and it worked out exactly as you hoped? When have you tried to please the group and it worked out spectacularly?