#humblebrag I'm in the DC area and there are two full-on kink "clubs" here, one in DC proper and one in Baltimore. Anything else is either a "themed" bar, a "camp" where they take over a field or hotel, or a house party. If you want to practice some kinkery, take a class or meet someone for play in a public, safe environment these are your options. You can go to a "munch" which is usually just a bunch of us taking over the back of some restaurant, but you really just mingle. A few times I've done a small class in a sex toy shop, but it's better to mix in with space to roam and play. We do house parties with people we know, often within a poly-cule (I hate that term, but it means anyone part of a polyamorous group: partners and partners of partners, etc.). We had planned a "Skill Share" house party this past weekend but had to cancel it. Again, safety is critical and inexperience can be very dangerous, both in the predatory sense and the accidental injury sense. When I want to learn (or teach) how to do a particular thing (like shibari rope: intrictate, difficult, and occaisionally gorgeous), we try and host a house party. Also, if I'm trying to play with someone new, or if my partner and I want to try something that works better with another person (four of us carried her on a litter one time), a house party is where we can do it in an intimate setting. The clubs have their place, but they are public, and you may not want to be naked in front of 100 or so strangers, as opposed to a dozen friends. The downside is...predators come in all shapes and sizes. We've had stuff stolen before, and had to insist some folks leave when they didn't follow the rules. The kinky shit is in the basement, and there's couches, chairs, a tv, fireplace, and a sink down there, in addition to toys and a bunch of furniture used to hold someone in a given position/posture. Usually, upstairs we do drinks/food and games. Most folks won't play with someone whose been drinking, because they can't really count on that consent and because their intake may influence pain tolerance or blood flow. So, play then party. Outside, we'd do a fire pit, smoking area and hot tub, with the occaisional barbecue. They usually have somewhere between 10-20 people all in. I'm not poly (yet), so I don't participate in group play, or orgies or whatever. I occaisionally observe, but usually unless I'm teaching/playing, I spend most of my time upstairs playing games and managing host duties. It's a very....liberal atmosphere. Most of the participants are middle-aged, I think the youngest is like 28 or so. The naked flesh on display isn't exactly worthy of a showcase, but who cares.
I'd definitely rather be naked in front of 100 strangers than a dozen of my friends. That aside, is the cleaning up of the basement fuck zone the next day completely miserable, or what?
Over the pandemic, lots of folks stuck at home got experimental. Some of the stories from them are amazing. You'd be surprised. People like to fuck everywhere, even in Texas. No, people clean up after themselves. Some folks bring blankets (Liberator or Sportsheets, that are water/fuck-proof), and most folks use disposable covers for the furniture and wipe off EVERYTHING obsessively. Any toys are cleaned, and few people share anything that can get contaminated (ie, handcuffs might get a wipe down, but no one would use someone else's vibrator, and it gets wiped/sanitized anyway). The worst of it is upstairs with beer bottles, snack plates, etc. One of the frequent participants is sort of service-oriented, and they make it a point to clean up when they care. Typical party aftermath. Anyone dumb enough to leave a mess after sex/play wouldn't be invited back. The biggest pain in the ass is the few times a year I have to buy more Clorox wipes at Costco than the average dude.
So I’m guessing Madison Cawthorn blew his chance at getting another invite? Probably for the best, it’ll save you a ton of Clorox wipes.
And you’re in here asking us for advice on showing porno to the uninitiated? I was going to ask if the people are as greasy as the efukt videos let on but you mentioned it. Is there ever a smoke show that shows up that all the dudes clamor for and the ugmos get jealous? Just saw an interview where he claimed he’s been invited to a few DC elite sex parties. Even coming from him it’s not hard to imagine the types of narcissist that have careers in politics have that sort of lifestyle.
Yes, because...ffs....I imagine my porn tastes are skewed. Yes, hot girls exist, they party, they fuck and if I'm really lucky, I get to do things to them. Yes, the other, less attractive women get jealous/twatty. Outside of a few cases, though, the hottest girl might just not be into what you're into, and so she might as well be invisible. Also, being gorgeous in some of these environments isn't as big a plus as you might think: folks assume you're a model/porn star, professional, and avoid you. The worst case I can think of is I was playing with a girl who was pretty hot, but nothing like outrageous. We were in a public club, and some late 50's/early 60's dude just sits down maybe 15-20 feet away, drops his pants and tighty whities and starts jerking it. It took a minute (we weren't focusing on spectators), but he was trying to make eye contact with her, and instead made eye contact with me. He didn't finish, and neither did we, but he was smart/gracious enough to move on and keep to himself the rest of the evening. One of the folks responsible for ensuring safety/security gave him a scolding, but he technically didn't violate any rules. She didn't seem to care, so I chose not to either, but...yeah, that kind of thing can get you fucked the fuck up, especially at the Baltimore club. Weirdly, I'm working on some stuff in Cawthorn's district, and he is....everything they say he is, and worse. I dunno about DC elite sex parties, and if I did, I wouldn't imagine a pathological lying cripple who can't keep a secret is high on the list of invitees. I've played with a few folks who are legit powers behind the throne, and I know a professional dominatrix or three that claims to have some clientele who regularly appear on Fox News or CSPAN. Most folks here just accept "hey, you don't pick how you're wired", and try not to bring politics/work into it. It is DC, so everyone wants to network, but I've seen conversations turn to work and literally watched the sexual energy dissipate. No one likes that guy (and it's always a guy).