Well ... this could be a mistake, but what the hell.

An investment banker who kept a detailed and very candid spread-sheet on the 12 women he was dating or wanted to date has been caught out after he mistakenly sent the document to one of the women.

Focus: What's the dumbest, most retardedly self sabotaging thing you've ever done while dating? Was it dumber than keeping a ho roster score card, and then sending a digital copy of it to one of the ho's?

Alt Focus: Is this guy's spreadsheet actually that bad a thing? Have you had trouble keeping track of online dating interests? Have you considered this kind of score card as a digital replacement for a 'little black book'? How would you feel if you found out that before you started dating someone, they'd had this kind of spreadsheet?

 

Alt-focus: You know, when I first read about this, I didn't understand what the big deal was. I find it hilarious that he accidentally sent it to one of them, but the act of keeping the spreadsheet isn't inherently douchey to me. It had potential to be MUCH worse, but what he actually wrote wasn't really offensive. I kind of even admire his organization. I do the same thing for, like, tracking agents and submissions and things. Mainly I'm just jealous he has had that much luck with online dating. My peeks into OkCupid have been wholly uninspiring, although awesome for digital people-watching.

I must have a story for the focus, but I need to think about it.

 

I'm in agreement with the comments above. His only real mistake was in telling his date about it and then sending it to her. Guess the conversation got a little boring so they ended up on the "hey - how about this match.com" schtick and were comparing notes. Who knows. From my standpoint, just looks like he is organized.

 

I have to admit, I kind of see the appeal for a spreadsheet. I mean, email it around is just fucking retarded. But if you're interacting with a bunch of people over an extended period - I could totally see how this thing would be really helpful.

 

Add me to the list of people that thinks it's a bit anal but not actually offensive.

Also, I think that it was way more fucked up of her to send it around to her friends than it was for him to make it.

 

A little douchey. But not much. This guy really hasn't really done anything wrong, and believe me: this sort of thing isn't new and REALLY isn't uncommon amongst men OR women. His just happens to be probably the most conservative and polite that I've seen.

These five guys I knew in college who had a townhouse together kept a giant "scorecard" hidden on the back of their living room bulletin board that they tallied every pick-up/sexual encounter they made from one-nighters to actual girlfriends, with about ten to twelve "categories" on it (that also had a 1-10 rating) detailing various physical attributes and sexual performances of the women they met. There was only ONE based on personality, labeled "personality". The rest of course were the type of things only vacant-minded PUAs would give a shit about.

I thought it was fairly creepy and an ENORMOUS heat score if it was discovered, but they treated it like ferocious bookies and often got into heated discussions over the lies and truths written on it. I've heard the whole "I've banged more chicks than you so I'm better" horseshit countless times, but THIS was a whole new level of unnecessary.

Personally, I don't care-- it wouldn't be my bag personally, dating or relationship hunting doesn't seem like the kind of thing that requires paperwork, spreadsheets or files. In my eyes, you connect with somebody or you don't and statistics shouldn't tell you what to choose, but on the other hand I DO see the point of the guy from the original post. At least he kept it somewhat conservative unlike those dinks that I mentioned.

And I agree with KK, "bod" is one the the douchiest things a man could say. 1986 called and wanted its beach slang back.

 

This.

Coincidentally, I happen to have a spreadsheet on all of you.

I've been monitoring Ballsack very closely, and am hoping that he and I can go see a local production of "Fiddler on the Roof" next time I'm in KC.

 

Another added to the "Boom Roasted" category at my expense.

To clarify, that honestly hasn't happened to me personally. It's just a shallow thing to say (her, not you) and there's dozens of variations on the "I only date _____ men/women" that are equally worthless. And to cement that I'm not a hypocrite, I myself was into tall girls back in the day-- I mean straight-up Amazons actually taller than me, 5'10" or taller (I know that seems odd to most guys, but on the other hand fuck you). However, I tower over my wife. She's probably 5'2". Person > Height

 

This is one of those things that gets exponentially more creepy when you write them down. A woman who sees her name on something like this is bound to wonder how close she was to ending up in a duffel bag.

 

Alt Focus: What other category’s should be on that list?

I like how he has a category called "online appearance" I would have had a following one called "actual appearance", would be interesting to see the % difference after 20 dates. It would allow you to extrapolate that data against future online meetings.

For instance:

"She's seems to be a 7.5 which is within an acceptable tolerance range, however apply the -16.3% variance and she falls below the "worth the cost of dinner risk range"

 

Damn, there's like 50 chicks on match.com in my area.

 

I keep a spreadsheet of girls I've spread between the sheets.

 

In all honesty: a girl you went on a date with sends you a spreadsheet of all the guys she is dating from match.com and you don't forward it to your buddies? You Sir, are a better man than me.

 

Pfffft. You act like that's a sin. Most women still don't grasp the concept that when you break up with a man, he's going to show his friends any and all naked pictures of her to his buddies.

...I'm talking five MINUTES after they break up, without so much as breaking stride. Internet camera striptease for him on his birthday? Congrats to her, she just went pro.

 

I love how they go to pains to say the spreadsheet is color coded, like color coding it somehow launches it into some new stratosphere of anal retentiveness, all you have to do is click a button, the dude works in spreadsheets all day, it probably took him a second at most.

I don't blame him for keeping a spreadsheet since the 12 girls on it weren't the only ones. I mean, you have to keep your shit straight. I'm wracking my brain trying to figure how people could find this type of behavior anal or creepy, it's a lot easier than keeping a journal/diary. I keep spreadsheets for finances and food intake that are probably much more 'anal' than that (not saying I'm more advanced with spreadsheets, just that people use them for a reason, they're really fucking useful).

That said he's a total fucking moron for e-mailing it to someone else and deserves to get shit on for it. I mean really? You're a successful 28 year old guy and you thought there was no harm in not only mentioning BUT E-MAILING the damn thing to a potential hookup? Back to the drawing board dipshit.

And seriously, this is news? The worst part is I read half the article, hypocrite stamp for me.