Hey if you like having your tits randomly grabbed and breaking up fights, I'd be happy to drink scotch. Sophistication? Yeahhhh, workin' on that. Either way, my breath is going to taste like cigarettes. My advice? Bring some gum, offer it generously. If the guy asks, "What? Does my breath stink or something?" Say, "Yes, now chew this gum stinky."
So are you saying you agree with this part too? 42% is a pretty high number. I don't need to know all my boyfriend's best friend's secrets. Unless he's secretly a serial killer or secretly has been banging my mom on the side, my boyfriend and his friends are allowed to have some secrets. I expect the same thing with my friends as well- I shouldn't have to report back to the guy if one of my friends has been seeing her boss.
I hope you appreciate single malts as much as the blends. Also, do you agree with the part about googling your name / checking sex offender registry? Women really do that?
98% of people with a fucking brain in their head think that anyone who even pays attention to polls like this is a pathetic loser.
Sooooo....More than 50% of women don't want to know ANY sexual history until "they're serious" (a.k.a fucking)? I don't know about you, but I like to know what kind of mileage is on a car before I take it from the "Used" lot. This one made me laugh: Girls Look For: Sense of Humour: 49% Looks- 2% - and thank you for screwing up that poll entirely for being such a bunch of fucking liars. I can't fathom why these bar stars keep insisting that looks aren't important to them. And haow is intelligence important if you don't have any? "A girl prefers a guy who drinks liquor" - Why is it important what a guy DRINKS, too? Do you think you'll be thanking him for choosing liquor later in life when he uses it to fuel his rage towards you? "It's kind of a given that you share" -Believe me if we shared EVERYTHING, you would never stop crying. You have secrets too, and we WANT you to keepthem to yourselves. All in all, yet another "We know men and you don't" article that made me roll my eyes into next week.
I'm surprised so many people refuse to believe that looks aren't at the top of the list when it comes to girls finding guys attractive. I thought the phenomenon of hot girl with average/ugly guy was pretty well understood as a function of looks simply not mattering as much for guys as it does for women. I mean, money and power and fame might be the biggest thing that can overcome not being Adonis, but in terms of things normal guys have, intelligence and humour are it. Scotch-swilling journalist Christopher Hitchens weighs in: <a class="postlink" href="http://www.vanityfair.com/culture/features/2007/01/hitchens200701" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;">http://www.vanityfair.com/culture/featu ... hens200701</a>
I feel like that question is misleading. If you're on the fence about whether or not to tell your girlfriend, and your sole determining factor on if you're going to spill your guts is whether or not she wants to hear it, then YES. Tell her. If you feel bad about it afterwards, then remember that feeling and keep shit to yourself next time. However, if it made you feel better by unburdening yourself, then remember that feeling and tell her whatever you like. I think that question should've been rephrased as "If your boyfriend's best friend told him something in confidence, would you demand to know what was said in secret?" In which case, I would say no. But my boyfriend really wanted to tell me something that he was told in confidence, I'm not going to stick my fingers in my ears and say "LALALALALALALALA". I always want to listen, but I never want to pry. I'm probably not the best person to ask. I regularly troll the sex offender registry for shits and giggles. But I do Google names and hometowns. I wouldn't do this if it hadn't worked in my favor once--I found the WEDDING ANNOUNCEMENT of a guy I had been casually seeing. That saved me a lot of heartache. Me too! I truly mean it when I say that humor is my number one priority and intelligence is my second. If you're not funny, why would I want to date you? Life is full of shitty suprises, and I want someone who can help me find humor in a shitty situation rather than someone who has a nice face to look at in a shitty situation. Same with intelligence. I'm not saying looks don't matter to women--there are some women out there that solely date hot men and don't give a fuck about anything else. Just like there are men out there that only date hot women and don't give a fuck about anything else. But the majority of people tend to select partners based on criteria other than looks.
The question isn't misleading at all. By answering "Yes, I feel my boyfriend should tell me what his best buddy told him in confidence", 42% of women are effectively saying that not only do they have a right to know every even semi-secret the boyfriend knows, but that the boyfriend should be telling her these things. Yes, of course if the boyfriend wants to tell you something you'll listen, but that is what a fucking relationship is about. These terrible women think they somehow get the keys to the vault simply because they are in a relationship with the guy. And it's not just some random secret, it's something his best friend told him in confidence. Shame on these filthy whores and shame on any guy that would run and tell his girl something his best friend wanted kept secret.
Hmm...does Ted Bundy ring a bell? Tell me, does date rape happen more often with men or women? Are men or women typically able to overpower the opposite sex at any given moment? If you are a woman, and have ever been a victim of any kind of assault whatsoever (which at least 20 % of all women will be subject to just sexual assault), which may make you a little more likely to question something or someone? See, those are the types of things that run through a woman's mind that wouldn't even come across a man's mind. Most men that you meet can possibly (not always, but possibly) have the ability of overpowering you (if you look at the average basis), and it just seems smart to be safe than sorry...and we have some tools now to attempt that. I will likely google every man I meet if I ever intend to date him, but I've also had to pull a knife on a man who was simply supposed to be my friend at one point in order to insure my own safety. So, you can think that I'm bat-shit insane, but at least I won't be bat-shit insane, chopped up in tiny pieces at the corner of someone's basement. A lot of those statistics may borderline the bullshit side, but when it comes to checking a background, I think not. Don't most of our jobs do just that? Why would we (as men and women, really) prefer not to know what we could be getting into, as far as dating the opposite sex? Perhaps...perhaps it may be pushing the limits to order a full, composite background check on the person, but doing a little bit of investigation into someone's background before you date them doesn't seem all that far-fetched to me.
It's not just girls, a lot of guys want to know that shit too. And yeah, if I'm getting extremely serious with a girl, like long term shit, I'd give her my best guess at my number if she really wanted to know (not to say I've fucked a shit load of broads so I can't remember exactly, I just stopped keeping track after the first year of college). What worries me is the 8 percent of girls that would want to know that on a first date. What the FUCK is wrong with these girls? If I ever got asked that on a first date I would be in my car leaving within 25 seconds. That's a definite red flag if I've ever seen one.
FUCK YES Someone has finally validated my opinion that stubble is the greatest thing ever. God damn I love absentmindedly rubbing my fingers across my one or two day old chin forest, I just can't resist looking thoughtfully into the distance while stroking my scratchy chin. Feels good man. Also I have a razor that cuts it to one-day-stubble length immediately, so if I shave every day I have perpetual stubble. On the other hand, that also means I have less of a window to miss a couple of days or I go into grungy territory, and eventually wildman-escaped-from-the-woods territory. Did I mention I grew out my hair and beard and went as a caveman for haloween? I got my loincloth-clad ass grabbed a few times, it kicked ass. Also FUCK YES for chin and breasts avatar. Also, Billy Mays had the most awesome beard ever. If this post seemed at all meandering and absent-minded it was because I was too busy running my fingers through the freshly harvested fields of my face to pay attention to what I was saying. It may have leaked into my post.
I just want to lay out, first of all, that it's important to realize where the hell we are. We're on the Idiot Board, a message board whose members pride themselves on precisely two things: Humor, and Intelligence. That's where we are, that's who we are, and as members of this board, that's what we like. So let me just take a leap of logic right now and say that "If you are a member of this board you are predisposed to put high value on humor and intelligence, and if you are a female member of this board this is no different" So we should be aware of the possibility of the opinions of female members of this board being skewed more towards "But I really DO look for humor and intelligence more than looks!" than perhaps the average member of another population of humans. Let me just say that in my opinion if humor and intelligence together accounted for 76% of female attraction then I would literally be drowning in pussy. Of course, perhaps the exclusion of a category for "humility" accounts for this discrepancy. All right, you've convinced me. Not much difference to me either way, but if I can exhale rough sex and sweat sophistication why the hell wouldn't I?
Insecurity, they want to know how many other women they are being compared to. It really shouldn't matter as long as you have a clean bill of health.
No, sadly. Most women I know don't want to "train" anyone. It also has to do with trying to "analyze" a mans patterns. If he's fucked a lot of women, yet hasn't had many "serious" relationships, she may determine that he is a "player." If he has been in only long term relationships, she may assume that he is boyfriend material OR that he will become too needy. It depends on what she is looking for. The flaw in this method is that people are (well, should be) always changing and growing. Basing opinions and judgements off of one's past is not really accurate or fair.
I respectfully disagree. I can't think of anything more accurate to base a judgment on (assuming that you are going to 'judge') than past behavior. Sure, you can look at current behavior, but 'judgments' are made in these circumstances in order to predict future behavior (which is unknowable). So that leaves you with past behavior. If I met a chick and found out she had slept with every best friend of every previous boyfriend, except the most recent, (or switch it around, makes no difference gender wise) then I think that is highly relevant. Is it necessarily accurate? No, people can certainly change, I won't argue with that. What I might argue with is that people necessarily change. They don't, unless there's a reason to do so. And I see nothing unfair about saying to a girl (or a guy, gender makes no difference here): 'Well, you've cheated on every boyfriend you've ever had (assume number greater than 1) so I have to assume that you will do so to me, therefore, I don't want to date you exclusively.' Is that necessarily fair? No, maybe she intends to change. But I think it would be the height of naivete to go into it assuming that because she says she's over that behavior now that is unfair to judge her in that fashion.
This is a good point. You can't go in blindly trusting someone's words. When I see someone who claims to have changed acting in an inconsistant manner, I call them on it. If it continues, cut my losses. I do believe in giving people a chance to prove themselves. While I may ask about relationships, I don't find the "number" of partners truly relevant.
Do you know what guys want? Tolerance. As far as I go, nothing is a bigger turn-on than a woman that has enough down-to-earth tolerance. Guys love a woman that get let him go out with his boys, say "Have a good time!" and not once does she check up on him or "accidently" bump into him with her friends later that night. Your trust us what love. Guys hate clingyness like Guidos hate music that's slower than 125 bpm. I mean, Facebook stalking (almost all-out approval)?! All-out depraved honesty? What is your damage, girlfriend? I can't even remember what my OWN profile looks like on Facebook. Are people so fucking lazy they don't even like the element of surprise anymore? It seems that starting relationships nowadays are like some sort of evil behind-the-scenes Japanese business deal. You have to dig up all the dirt in hir history and plant bugs on your own people and then sick Sean Connery and Willie Mayes Hayes on them.