For whatever reason, the people in my life feel the intense need to bare their souls to me. This includes people I don't really know that well. I might as well replace the guest chairs in my home and office with one-armed couches. I have no idea why this is: maybe I look non-threatening? Maybe I look like I can keep a secret? Maybe they think I don't have any friends to whom I would potentially tell interesting secrets? Whatever the cause, people feel totally comfortable telling me things about themselves that few other people know. Many of them are things I don't want to know, but that's a separate issue. It's not that I don't appreciate their trust and confidence. I really do. Being in the Circle of Trust sometimes has excellent practical outcomes: at work, I am so plugged in that I often hear the same juicy news from multiple people weeks or months before it is announced publicly. Each time I hear it, I have to pretend like it's the first time and that I'm totally digging this really juicy info, since I don't want people to get the idea that I have lots of sources. However, from time to time, this can cause a little awkwardness, because I know some secret and everybody else doesn't. For example, let's say I find out that some guy is going to get promoted soon. Then two days later that guy comes in my office all worried about his career, and I have to sit there and pretend to be sympathetic for 20 minutes because I can't be like "dude, chill out, don't worry about it." When he finally DOES get promoted I have to go congratulate him and pretend that I am as (pleasantly) surprised as he is. Sometimes the awkwardness is worse, though. In High School, a girl I knew wanted to go to the Junior prom with my best friend, and so rather than just asking him she invited us both over to her house to hang out in some elaborate plan to ask him more privately. She told me that my coming over was just a cover, and that her real purpose was to ask my friend to the dance, but that I was sworn to secrecy about the whole plan. However, she acted just a little weird about the whole thing and my friend got suspicious that we were going over for something more than just hanging out. He, in turn, made me swear that there was nothing going on. This happens to me all the time, and I have no idea what to do. By default, usually the first person that swears me to secrecy or to reveal a secret wins, but I usually end up catching flak from both sides in those situations. FOCUS: When have you been in the Circle of Trust with someone, and what was the secret you were sworn to uphold? What awkward moments ensued as you had to pretend to not know anything about something that you, in actuality, knew all about?