Focus: What's the hardest part of being a man/woman to you? Inspired by a Reddit comment that effectively determined that the hardest part of being a guy was this sense that sex is a gift, or something to be earned, not when both parties want it. I've found multiple orgasms to solve that particular pickle. For me, the hardest part about being a guy is not ever feeling comfortable with being vulnerable. If I'm feeling any emotion other than rage, it's difficult to express. Maybe it's my particular foray into masculinity, but it's hard to emote without it being childlike or feminine.