My brother in law just got engaged. My oldest son has his middle name, which is as close as I get to "feelings." I'm not normally one to offer advice and even rarely am I one to seek it. Thus I'm in the weird position of him asking me for marital advice. Somehow, in my family of six children, plus my mother included, I have the longest marriage which is 7 and a half years currently. The next closest is 5.5. Their family has been wrecked by divorce even moreso than ours has (Lonestar may or may not have had a lot to do with that, I mean for them, fucking inbreds). So now I'm in the insanely awkward position of being asked for advice, while I'm still just winging it day to day myself. "Yes ma'am" and building what she wants has its benefits I guess? Focus: what's the best advice you've ever been given? Alt focus: what's the worst?