My Thanksgiving was relatively muted this year. My mom was in the ER the entire day, mostly due to an anxiety-driven overreaction to what she thought was shortness of breath. The silver lining is, no one came over that we needed to entertain. Usually, my dads family comes over for dessert after they have their meal. In past years, my uncle invariably starts in on politics immediately. At my Grandmother's (his mother's) funeral, he pulled my wife aside and started a diatribe about what he thought about impeachment. It was completely bizarre. In the past, he has gone on long-winded rants on god knows what when people are just trying to enjoy their meal. Whether or not people agree with him is irrelevant, because no one wants to hear any of it. On my wife's side, her uncle fulfills this role. Hes an actual flat-earther and fishes for an argument with anyone that disagrees with him. My wife begs me not to engage him whenever we all get together. Hes not a bad guy at all (neither is my uncle) and I genuinely dont mind him otherwise, but what the hell? Luckily, thats the general extent of our family drama. My grandma used to exclaim that the black person working at her local McDonalds was one of the "good ones," but shes no longer with us. Focus: Who is THAT person your family? What kind of bullshit do they stir up?