Like many here that have already posted, I like little bit of spanking, restraint, some dirty talk. With dirty talk, nothing to intense or vulgar. More like "You like that dick" "Ride it hard" etc.. And being told what to do-I often times like being the one in control but if a guy can command me to do things-it can be a hot change up and that coincides with restraint. I love doing it places I'm not supposed to, times I'm not supposed, with people around and have to be sneaky. One of my best head stories: Spoiler This happened with one of my ex boyfriends. Going with his family to dinner in the suburban. Dad and mom in the front, sister and sister's boyfriend in the middle. my boyfriend at the time and I in the back. This was around winter so we all had winter jackets and bundled up. The restaurant we were going to was about a 40 minute drive. About 15 minutes into the ride, I whispered in my boyfriend's ear "You know what would be fun right now?... If I gave you head." He turned to be with wide doe eyes and asked "Really?" So he took off his winter jacket so it looked like I was just "taking a nap" until we got to the restaurant. I told him to tap my head so I'd stop sucking if his sister or her boyfriend turned to look at us. The best part wasn't even that I got away with it. He finished right as we were turning into the parking lot. I love watching sex in the mirror or videotaping sex. Then we can watch it later and go at it again. Another thing I've done is watching porn with the guy I'm with to either get ready to go at it or even mimic (at least as much as we can-I am fairly flexible though) what they do in the porn.
Corotid....Just the sensation of knowing I am being dominitated to the max when his hand is on my throat....
You're doing it wrong. Or rather the person who applied the RNC to you was doing it wrong. There are lots of ways to fuck up applying a RNC, most common is to not turn the head far enough into your elbow and have a forearm across the airway instead of clean carotid constriction - you can usually tell this is happening if the person being choked starts coughing. To get ear pain afterward? Unusual, but my best guess is that the person choking you either had their bicep way too far forward, or had their locking hand jammed against your ear instead of in the back of your hair or on their other bicep. I use rear naked chokes as my default breath play hold. I Prefer carotid constriction, but actual airflow restriction is fun for the same reason. You get an intense euphoric sensation from oxygen deprivation and the greying out as you slide toward unconsciousness is intense. If you apply it correctly - it should be intense and scary - but not painful. And most girls have more than enough strength to apply a solid choke to a guy. A guy might have enough of a strength advantage to muscle free of the hold if he fights back - but if he's restrained or cooperating? it doesn't take much strength to apply an RNC. But it does come with all the usual caveats of be careful and know what you're doing, and how to deal with a fuck up, or it can go really badly wrong.
To clear up some things about choking and strangling (this is a simplification): - If you can't breathe, it's a choke and it's airway. - If you can breathe and just black the fuck out, it's a strangle. They feel very different. Strangulation is much more "peaceful" because choking is a motherfucking bitch. We were doing chokes in class over a week ago, and I was the demonstration dummy. We slipped the slightest bit and I've only just starting to swallow without some pain. A "combat" choke is very aggressive. It's bone on windpipe. As a victim, it feels violent. An intimate choke is nothing like this unless you like the potential of being a murderer. And no, I won't say how it's done properly for fear that someone will go and fuck it up. The major thing is, if you stop someone breathing - they STOP BREATHING. Any recovery involves a complete restart of the system. If you the stop the blood supply to the brain for a second, it's still not good but the rest of the circulation is working and the odds are that as soon as you let go the pressure in the arteries will force blood into the brain. Things can go wrong, but in the best case scenario it's not greatly different from fainting due to low blood pressure. If someone squeezes the trachea in an intimate setting, they have no right to be having their hands anywhere near someone's neck
Uninformed yet practiced opinion: Choking is not about airflow at ALL. Never in my many times of choking a girl/being choked by a girl has airflow to the lungs come into it in a serious manner. It's the illusion that it might. I got into choking when I was 20, sleeping with a 32 year old who pushed my boundaries in a lot of ways. She couldn't cum unless she was being at least choked. I've also been choked, on rare occasions, not intentionally, but when you're choking them and they reach up, it's not like you can say no. I found it strangely exhilarating. Not in any kind of submissive way, as I was still on top and in control, but... the feeling of having your carotids clinched while fucking is actually pretty erotic. I wouldn't have believed it if it hadn't happened to me. Sort of made me realize I wanna try more than I thought I did...
I was going to say something like this in reponse to your last post - a girl I had a very dominant sexual dynamic with choked me a few times during sex, but it just reinforced the dynamic, because it was like her reaching up and grabbing my neck was the only way she could fight back. It wasn't really serious choking from either of us, though, more just for the feeling of a hand round a neck and some noticable pressure.
I might be a smidge too drunk for this thread right now. I like being roughed up. Choked... with a hand around my throat or a cock inside it. Slapped around. Ass and face. I like being forced to do things. I like having my hair pulled until my eyes are watering. I like when it hurts. Doggy style for me is better than pretty much any other position. I hate toys. I like being whipped with belts... but I hate toys. Unless it's a beer bottle or some other random object. But sex toys that are sold for the purpose of sex don't really excite me. I met a guy in university who brought it out of me. At first it was the age gap between us that made me feel like I couldn't say no to things I'd always said no to before. I thought he'd think I was young and naive. Then I started to realize I actually liked the things he was doing to me. I remember coming home after a few hours of being fucked and beaten by him, and having my roommate threaten to call the cops. I was always black and blue when he was done with me. And I loved it. My rules are simple. You can't leave marks that clothing won't cover and I have only four hard limits. No scat, no children, no animals, and no meat hooks. Here's a quick list from fetlife.com, which might better capture my preferences: age play, anal training, asphyxiaphilia, bare bottom spanking, bare handed spanking barefoot, bathroom use control, begging, being gagged with panties, belt spanking, belt whippings, bisexuality, biting, blackmail, bloodplay, boot licking, breast spanking, bruises, bukkake, choking, clit spanking, cocksucking, cum swapping, roleplay, deep throating, degradation, discipline, face slapping, fear, fingering, gagging/choked by cock, gags, golden showers, hair pulling, handjobs, high heels, ice cubes, knife play, leaving marks, mental bondage, mind control, outdoor bondage, paddling,pantyhose/stockings, play rape, porn, pussy spanking, restraints, rimming, role play, rough sex, schoolgirl, scratching, service, sex in public, slapping, squirting, submission, swallowing, tit fucking, total power exchange. Curious about: collars, consensual nonconsent, crawling, double penetration, obedience training, orgasm denial, sexual objectification, speech restriction, triple penetration I think that just about captures it. It's probably important that I mention that my husband and I are polar opposites when it comes to sexual preference. He is as "vanilla" as they come.
All this talk about getting choked during sex reminds me of this: Maybe I'll put this on my bucket list.
Eh, it's not something I'm exactly proud of (though it was fucking hot). I've covered the basic premise here. I'll elaborate more if we do a threesome thread, or if there is really a demand for the story.
Here's me getting way too personal and sharing way too much with you idiots. I just watched Secretary for the first time. People have been telling me to watch for years. Netflix and staycation changed that today. From Wikipedia, about the movie: I think that sort of summarizes my extreme sexual submission and innate desire to feel physical pain when I'm fucking. It's a consensual exchange of power, and with the right chemistry, it's pretty fucking awesome. Everyone wants to know if and why I'm damaged goods - because of my extreme sexual tastes. Do I have Daddy issues. Did I have a shitty childhood. The truth is that I led a painfully easy and normal life growing up. Admittedly, I was a bit of a spoiled brat. I was often given much more than I ever deserved. Why do I enjoy having pain inflicted? I don't know. It just feels normal. It feels good. It's probably even part of the reason I have five tattoos. I like the way the needle feels when it's dragging across my skin. Getting inked actually turns me on. Not the end result (although I like that too) but the feeling of continuous hurt while it's all going down. My husband and I have had many an argument about this shit. He's a country boy with a penchant for vanilla sex and simple blow jobs every now and then. His opinion is that only whores and sluts have extreme sexual desires like mine. We have really different approaches to sex. Everyone says, "just meet each other half way." The problem is that my "half way" is off the Richter scale for what many people might consider "normal." Thank God for porn and my right hand.
Every time you post this, I can't wrap my head around it. For me, it's no different than any other aspect of life: morality, intelligence, whatever. Vast discrepancies are always going to be a problem if it's a part of your life that requires a partner, especially if it's unacceptable to seek a partner elsewhere (e.g. my girlfriend doesn't read for pleasure much but I can always find someone else to talk about books with). I just feel like such a void would inevitably be something I would either seek to fill (which you can't do without cheating) or would become such a frustration that it would be unfair to the other person.
It's a huge issue for us. When I married him five years ago, I had to seriously ask myself - "Can I spend the rest of my life with someone that I do not have 'great' sex with?" The answer was yes. I thought I could be with someone if that was the only thing we didn't see eye-to-eye on. Which maybe at the time was a stupid assumption, because it's a much bigger issue than I was willing to admit. But he's a good man. He loves me way more than is safe or reasonable. He's my best friend. And I know he'll be one hell of a father someday. Did I sacrifice sexual pleasure and satisfaction for convenience and security? Yes, probably. Do I regret it? Sometimes yes. Sometimes no. My mentality was always that sex is like pizza, because "even when it's bad, it's still kind of good." So, I've resigned to a life of good sex - not great sex. He's asked many times if I want an open marriage. The problem is that I know he only asks because he can tell there are things I want to explore that he is unwilling to explore with me - not because he's willing to actually go out and fuck some other woman. We have an issue now and I know that "opening the marriage" would just create a much, much bigger issue.
Fair enough. I'm not really so much into kink myself, but I'm pretty open-minded and for me, the other person getting off is the hottest part. I have a few hard lines that I wouldn't cross but up until that point, I'd really be willing to try just about anything if she wants it/will enjoy it. I'm not sure I could really get into any kind of serious role-playing. Costumes or whatever, sure, but I think role-playing would just crack me up too much to be sexy.
Role playing like "I'm the teacher, you're the student" and wearing outfits is kind of ridiculous to me. Role playing like "you're my fucking slave today and you should do what I say" is more my speed. Outfits, toys, and all those other crazy contraptions in the kink scene don't interest me much at all. I'm curious about what some things do, but not necessarily about how they will feel.
I find this idea very exciting too, but I can not explain why and I'm not sure if I could actually go through with it (watching my SO fuck another guy). I brought this up once and her reply was basically "Absolutely not! Never!" She asked me what I found to exciting about the idea, and I honestly could not explain it. I just know I do. With regards to other things, I'll pretty much try anything as long as it does not involve shit/blood/vomit/etc. I don't like pain inflicted on me, but I will perform pretty much any act my SO asks, just as long as it turns her on. I've been trying to convince her to try a FMF threesome, but she won't go for it although she openly admits watching two women together is a huge turn on for her. What really turns me on is whatever turns my SO on.