To make it up to hooker, here's a suggestion: Talk about your kinks. Are you into BDSM? Like to dress up as a rabbit? Got a thing for popping balloons? Whatever you're into, it can't be any worse than Kenneth Pinyan. He died for his love, and they filmed a documentary about it. I invite you to look that one up on your own. *shudder* Kinks. Let's hear 'em.
I have a healthy interest in bondage. I like the idea of being at the control of another person. This isn't something I bring up on a first date or anything, but if I've been with a guy a few times, I'll let him handcuff me to the bed, and I'll maybe use a blindfold. I've only been with one guy enough times to let this happen, so this is mostly a comment on the type of porn I watch.
FOCUS: I like women who don't completely shave their bush. I don't want a huge Amazon-bush, but I do want to see some hair down there. Some people think that makes me kinky. I think that people who want all women bald are the freaks.
I'm just here to spank hooker. Open hand. Let's just say I'm not phased by much. As long as it doesn't involve shit or vomit, I will probably be into it, or at the very least indulge you. I don't understand people that don't want to experiment. They are out there, and they are numerous. Or boring as fuckall. You don't have to dress up like Spock while you watch a midget in a fish helmet slap my balls with cold cuts, but can we at least pull out the spurs and blindfold? I like cuffs, hair pulling, dirty talk, blindfolds. I like these things a lot. I like using toys that pinch and vibrate or both. Giving oral is almost a fetish for me. Give me the chance, I will spend the evening tossing your salad. Choking and slapping used to be a little out there, but it has its place now. However, role playing is retarded. You want to dress up like a filthy nun? AWESOME. Just don't expect me to play the part of the randy priest beguiled by your feminine wiles and my Christian duty. The second someone calls me "daddy" in baby talk is an instant erection killer. It's just too funny. Latex getups are a tad much too. By the way, Kenneth Pinyan: Go ahead, guess what he died of.
This is slightly off topic, but I used to think I'd like face-fucking when I was younger before I'd really done anything aside form watching porn (think age 15-16). I don't know why I did, but I thought there was something appealing about a dick going all the way into a woman's mouth and having her hold it there. The first girl I hooked up with was incredible at giving head, and after the third time, I decided to see if she'd let me. We went at it, and all I thought about the entire time was if I was hurting her or not. I especially had trouble with it she gagged, which I thought was hot while watching porn, but not so hot when I was worried if I was going to end up covered in vomit. I guess I don't have enough sadomasochism in me for face-fucking. This is funny because about a year after, a girl DID throw up on me, but that was her fault not mine. I like choking girls a bit too, but I think I'm ok with that because unlike having a cock jammed down my throat, I know what choking feels like and when to stop when I'm doing it to someone. (harhar) I don't really have too many kinks that I know of, but I do like voyeurism, or the thrill of getting caught. I can finish pretty damn quickly if I'm ever in a situation where that could happen. The best sex I had was in a changing room at a Belks with a freak of a girl. I kept thinking the people walking by could hear, and I guess it really turned me on because I was done in a heartbeat. Aside from voyeurism and choking, none really come to mind. I guess I haven't tried enough things. Most girls I come across really aren't too far from the norm in their sexual tendencies...that or they just never felt compelled to share.
I'm far from vanilla, but most of the stuff I've done wouldn't range high on the kink meter. I get turned on by the idea of public or near-public sex more than the actually activity of it. I am absolutely a biter, but its more of a reflex than a particular turn on. I do however like to play a submissive role from time to time. Not so much that I want to be on a leash or be ordered about by a dominatrix, but a flipping of roles from time to time is more than welcome. I know some guys who always want to be dominant, always in control, and for me that gets old. I like to be on the other end sometimes, unless that other end is attached to a strap -on.
Like everyone else here apparently, I'm also a fan of rougher stuff up to a point: handcuffs or some type of restraint (not to something, but just behind my back or something), choking, hair pulling, spanking, blindfolds (sometimes), and being told what are usually what I need to bring it from good sex to hot sex. I have absolutely no interest in nipple clamps or anything that goes anywhere else that's at all similar to them. No thank you. And even though I've enjoyed the same concept with a belt, I'm not that interested in whips or crops and that type of stuff either.
Good timing. Just today I had a girl text me and complain that since I moved out of state she's had to go back to vanilla sex.
I find it quite humorous that if Kenneth survived his "ordeal", and was caught by the authorities, his punishment would have been jail time. Surely if he enjoys copping it from a horse, jail would have been a walk in the park.
I like the one where the girl puts my penis in her vagina. Also might be into ordering girls around and verbally dominate them. And I might be into a girl using me.
I'm not trying to be a stick in the mud here, but since you've always been very cool about answering questions concerning your situation I hope you don't mind indulging me for a second. Are you a virgin? If so, have you come close to losing it yet? If not, how was it? Everything you thought it would be and more?
My only experience with kink was a chick I hooked up with for one night last year. We were out driving and having had jokes made about handcuffs, she joked about stopping to get a set. I told her that if I bought cuffs, she was wearing them, and she said ok. Cue several hours of taking turns wearing them while teasing each other with clothed foreplay...very middle-school shit, but I had no self-confidence and was happy to be in proximity to boobs. Once the clothes came off, there were no more cuffs, mainly because there was too much fumbling without them. I digress.* I want to try more kink in the future. I'm interested in spanking mainly. Seriously, however much she can take, I doubt I could really hurt her even if she begged me too, but a very red ass would be a huge turn-on. Then again, I'm not sure what I want; I think I just want to explore and see what works and what doesn't, and having a girl who would be into simply exploring would be a huge turn-on in itself. Fuck, I'd even be up for some submission....I don't want anyone padlocking my nuts and telling me what a dirty boy I am or anything crazy, but again, it's something I'm drawn to exploring a bit, just to see what it's like. What occasionally messes with my head is WHY I'm into it. Maybe I'm taking this too deep or on the wrong track for the thread, but I've heard many times that being spanked as a child, particularly at too old an age often leads to an interest in spanking. Obviously, there are many exceptions on both sides of the coin...many people get spanked as children and grow up to not have any interest, while many of those interested were never spanked. Still, it's interesting that there's a correlation there, and I find it strange that the subconscious would take painful punishment in childhood and associate it to a sexually gratifying activity in adulthood. One of my exes was into flogging and other submissive/pain activities, to the point she said her one experience with hook suspension had been the most amazing experience of her life. However, she only liked flogging on the back and was very turned off by even discussing spanking - she said it reminded her of being spanked as a child, and she didn't want to think about her dad while fooling around. That last part is understandable to anyone who isn't from the hills of West Virginia, but again it highlights the subconscious. Why do some people dissociate the current act from the earlier experiences, while others can't? Is it a subconscious expression of love through punishment? A need for dominance? Or just a random combination of factors that add up to "spank hooker's ass hard"? Again, I'm probably mucking up what should be a fun and kinky thread with some boring rambling, but I'm really interested in how the whole mental aspect of it works. I know there are theories out there, but it doesn't look like anyone has ever really looked into the why of it (probably because they were too busy just fucking doing it). * To digress further beyond the point of who-gives-a-fuck, she dislocated my shoulder while we were rolling about on my bed. Convincing her it was perfectly safe to continue after she watched my arm violently spasm for a few seconds was about as much fun as, well...having foreplay interrupted by a dislocated shoulder. NOT fucking fun.
I'm into BDSM. I don't associate myself with any particular activity, being open minded to pretty much anything that's not safe, sane and consensual (although the first two are open to interpretation). The thing is, my kink is giving pleasure. So long as it's not vanilla all the time and my partner's into it - I'm into it. If the girl's not enjoying herself, I won't do it because the fact that she's not into it is a total killjoy for me. It's not that I don't get enjoyment out of the activities, I do; it's that the lack of positive response is off putting. My perk's created a few hassles in the past, particularly with submissive girls. Inexperienced ones, especially, often aren't able to communicate what they want and will put up with whatever happens. That lack of positive response leads to my disinterest, which they interpret as them doing something wrong and then the moment's ruined. Once we get past that, things are good. She gets what she wants, and I get what I want because she gets what she wants. My current girlfriend and I had some issues similar to the above when we first started out. We've managed to get over that now, thanks largely to trust and communication. I also too the initiative and convinced her to try some new things to see whether she enjoyed them or not. She's mostly submissive, and I'm mostly dominant. Plain vanilla sex is the exception, and is usually only when we have kids around and need to be quiet. Aside from that we get it on with aggressive sex, hair pulling, scratching (she loves her ass being scratched), spanking, flogging, anal, deep throat, face fucking, rope, handcuffs, toys and she loves strangulation - especially with my hands around her neck squeezing the arteries while she rides me. A couple of weeks ago I put her in a sleeper hold until she passed out and started fucking her while she came to. She loved it. Kids, don't try that at home unless you seriously know what you're doing...
I find most guys I talk to are intensely uncomfortable with the idea of anything beyond light restraint. Most are okay with the idea of pinning you down or maybe tying your wrist; however, if you have a serious discussion about flogging or choking or whatever, it ends very quickly. Either this board is a skewed demographic (and let's be honest...we are), or the men I've spoken with have had issues with violence against women.
Funny, I was going to post about this in the R & R thread.... I like to dress up. Last night I put in 18" extensions and went for a Bettie Page look. Then a corset, pinstripe thigh highs with garters and 6" heels. I walked out to where Mr. P was reading and enjoyed how quickly he lost focus on his reading material.... I'm not really a vanilla girl, but not outrageously kinky either.
I'm a pretty kinky guy. The wife and I have tip-toed in swinging, we've had threesomes with the babysitter, and tried out various forms of play to see what excites us. The choking, spanking, rough sex, face fucking isn't an everyday activity but it's a lot of fun when the mood fits. By far my most defined kinks are a serious ass and not-so-serious foot fetish. I'm a total ass man. Spanking, biting, fucking, tossing salad - I'm all about it. Not that I don't pay attention to the rest of the body, but a nice ass is sure to drive me nuts. I'm also attracted to nice feet (not ALL feet). Cute, painted toes get my attention. I'll probably get a bunch of shit for this, but I can't be the only guy on here that likes to be called "Daddy" on occasion...
I for one, am shocked. Light choking is one thing, but isn't choking generally kinda dangerous if you don't know what you're doing? I'd be all for going to a workshop, but I'm not going to put my partner in danger without a better idea of what I'm doing. Same for elaborate bondage, although that's more a matter of my just not really knowing how to tie the knots. Elaborate kink takes skill. Focus: I don't really have any specific fetishes, but I enjoy a range of things and I'm perfectly happy to do a lot more. Sex tends to be hot when you're filling somebody's fantasies, so I'll likely enjoy it more than usual, even if it's not something I would have considered on my own. Nothing too kinky on my own part -- I'm always game for spanking/light bondage/etc. I have no interest in being anally penetrated or either team for watersports, so she'd have to be really persuasive or I'd have to really love her. Hard nos are children, scat, vomit. Other than that, I'm pretty much game on.
Wait, you mean there are kinkier things than missionary with the lights ON? Perverts and fornicators, the lot of you - ya'll gonna burn in hell! Focus I've yet to meet a girl that isn't into being at least a little rough, but the feedback is what does it for me - I'm open to trying just about anything if I can tell that it is getting her rocks off. I've never been able to talk dirty though, it just sounds cheesy and forced - I can hardly keep a straight face, which does nothing for maintaining the mood.