Inspired by this article. Focus: Do you sext? Is it always with a significant other? What do you sext? Do you like it, or has it become one of those relationship necessities, like implied dinners out on the weekend? Focus: What makes a good sext to you? Any mishaps, such as sent to grandma? Did she respond with her own? Alt. Focus: Do you think today's teens are more sexual than previous generations? Or is technology just allowing them to express sexual thoughts in a way that was previously unavailable?
Re: Let's Talk About Sexting... Considering I just got texting last week (yes this is real life and no, you're right, it is 2014), I am still figuring out how to send texts that don't take 5 minutes to type out. There was a little scandalous skyping when I was in Alabama and el husband was in Hawaii, but eh. Only the government has a copy of that now. Bump (and a shake).
Re: Let's Talk About Sexting... Edit: FINE, MS. MOD. Focus: I don't sext the husband. But I've sexted others in the past. The most graphic thing the husband has ever received by text is "Come home, I'm naked". By contrast, some of the stuff I've texted fuck buddies in the past would make your eyes roll back in your head.
I love the random naked picture of a female, unfortunately I don't think it translates well with the male form. Do women enjoy the occasional cock picture?
I have been sent naked pictures, but have never sent one myself. Come to think of it I dont think FutureWife and I have ever sexted each other. Its usually pictures of what the cat is up to when one of us is travelling. The closest thing to a sext that Ive sent was this, in response to a topless picture I received: Spoiler
Who doesn't enjoy some junk in their inbox? I just wish more of my female friends would text me photos of their tits.
Sexting is dumb. Not the nudity part, but the fact in this age of social media people are simply way to trusting to think that sexting is private and not shared. Bull. Shirt. I've talked about this on here before, but here goes again: Ladies, if you text naked pictures of yourself to your boyfriend, you have a 50-50 chance of him not showing it to his friends. If you break up, it's Showtime At The Apollo. Maybe they'll get posted online too if you scorned them. ...these are facts. And if it happens to you then you should be mad at yourself because it seriously is YOUR fault. It's not like the old days when we had to use the post office to mail Polaroids of our genitals to each other, this shit can make you famous in all the wrong ways INSTANTLY.
We've been over this. If you're dating a guy who's going to show his friends private pictures and/or spread them all over when you break up, you should probably stop dating complete fucking assholes. At this point I have dozens of photos of board members of the most explicit variety, and I haven't gone around posting or sharing any of them, cause I'm not a horrible twat. ...well except for the pictures that are sent to me with the instructions "post this shit on the board, I wanna see my tits up in lights!" I post those cause I'm a rep whore, and nothing gets rep like tittays.
Alt-Focus Teenagers are no less horny than they ever were, but since the "Sex Sells" explosion their behaviour has just become more tolerated due to wide-spread acceptance of this current generation. With the combination of record-high shitty parenting (where parents date their kids in favour of discipline) we now have teen girls peddling their ass on Craigslist for shopping sprees. And on the other burning end of the candle we have bullshit like abstinence preaching which really is the most pathetic thing I can think of.
I haven't sexted; but I've been with the same woman for 14 years now, and we've never spent more than 2 weeks apart, so I've never had the need. For the alt focus though, the funniest reaction I have ever seen came from one of my classes of seniors last year, in Government. We were talking about privacy rights and I said "anything you do or send online can be seen, whether it be an email or a text or a picture." One girl said "not snap chat! Those get deleted right away, and if they take a screen shot, it'll tell me." I then calmly asked to borrow a student's phone. I pulled out my phone, and took a picture of his screen, clear as day. I then said "does it alert you if this happens?" I saw at least 5 faces (all girls) turn ghost-white, and it was all I could do to not crack up. I also had a male student come to me after class and say "way to ruin a good thing, Mr. D26." Apparently I blew the lid off their plan, as they later said that everyone used that trick. Long story short: teens do not think ahead. They rarely think of consequences when they act, and rarely think more than a couple of days in advance. You mix that with the technology they have today, and the fact that their pictures are taken multiple times a day, to the point where there is zero discomfort in front of a camera, and of course sexting happens. Had this technology existed when I was in high school, I'm sure it would have happened then, too. Teens haven't changed, but their world has.
I was at a conference and there was a short session on "hacking mobile apps." The presenter, in under an hour, decompiled the snapchat app and rebuilt a version that saved every picture it got. As he was doing it he remarked, multiple times, how snapchat hadn't even made an effort to make the task difficult.
Not in the sense of having conversation and the like. But I send The Husband naughty pics when we're separated. The first 18 months of our marriage we lived apart, so it was nice to send him some booty or something. Fun for both of us. Closest thing to a mishap was when he was in Monterey. They had to put their phones in an amnesty box during class, and he hadn't turned off the preview feature on the messaging on his phone. People digging through almost saw a little more of me than they needed to. I don't think they're more sexual at all. I think they have different and more immediate tools to express that sexuality. I hate SnapChat.
Look, if you wanna jerk off to photos of photos of twats, then be my guest, but some of us go for the higher quality stuff.
Programmers seem unique in coming up with the most ridiculous Rube Goldberg-esque solutions that get another .5% boost in performance. "Well, sure, we could use this available library to get the job done, but what if I wrote everything from scratch? I'll get a 1% performance boost, and it'll only take a month!" I think that this is due to the fact that when you're just dicking around, you can do this and have the process be the more important thing about the project. Who cares that you can now save jailbait naked pictures in high resolution; you just learned a bunch about mobile apps, phone hardware, etc. Focus: I think it's really important to note that we've made it possible to widely publicize anything you want. In some cases, this is great; the idea of a random photographer getting his portfolio seen by everyone on the planet is one that would be seen as ludicrous even thirty years ago. Unfortunately, we're giving these tools to kids who have no fucking idea what they're doing with them. I'm a fan of the phrase, "It's just data." Movie? Data. Classified logs of informants and troop movements? Data. Naked pictures? Data. Your collected text history that will expose your vices and flaws to the world? Data. If it's not protected, it's just as easy to spread as cat videos and the latest episode of Game of Thrones. The disconnect is astounding; people will download DRM-protected video games the day after release on the Pirate Bay and think that Snapchat will somehow protect their pictures. Really? Come on. The only real answer is education. Protecting yourself online is important, and people treat you like a neckbeard loser if you're concerned about privacy. This needs to change.
I love sexting, partially because I have to put my writing degree to use somehow, and partially because I've either been in a long-distance relationship or somehow involved with people who don't live in the same city as I do for the past several years. And dick pics or other pictures are appreciated. It helps that I like writers, too. It can get really, really good. Like, have to stop everything and masturbate before I move on with my day good. In any case, it's just a fun, harmless way to get your rocks off and feel connected to someone when you can't see them as often as you'd like. I had one close call with fucking up sexting. I was really drunk, and I accidentally opened some other one text folder instead of the guy I was texting. Thankfully, I think I drunkenly closed the text window and when I opened it back again I clicked on the right one because the next day when I went to text my dad I saw a draft of an intense half-written sext that made me blush in the sober light of day that was thisclose from being sent to him. I now check my text about a hundred times before sending it to make sure it's going to the right person.
Sexting is integral to a long distance relationship. I had a day where I sent my girlfriend a message every time I thought about her tits. By 10:00 a.m. she had 34 messages just saying "And again." I do enjoy the wordplay and she does as well, or so she says. But photos? Nope. That's crossing a technological barrier that neither of us really trusts: those pics might not ever go away. I have nudes of her, but they have never even gone so far as through an email.
I've never sexted, as by the time I was up and running with texts, I was dating my wife. She's not really into that sort of thing, and in fact, if you looked at one of our text conversations, they are very perfunctory. Neither of us likes to text, so we just get to the point and move on. Alt Focus: I think teens are a lot more proactive (a euphemism, maybe?) than my generation was regarding sex. Sure, I was horny as hell at 14 (still am at 41) but had no real way to express that other than jerking off, which was done in the dark, late at night, in the privacy of my own room. I think this generation is far more comfortable with non-secrecy and sex (and things in general, but that's a different issue). Maybe my generation would have been as well, but there wasn't this constant barrage of self focused narcissism that seems to exist due to technology. It seems like every teenager firmly believes they are the leading man/lady in a movie. Me? I knew I was uncool and a bit player in the popular kids' movie. I would like to say this younger generation doesn't understand the consequences of their actions, but my generation didn't either, it's just our mistakes by and large disappeared into memory really quickly. The internet never forgets.
This is how I feel about the issue. The kids aren't any different, but the tools they have to induldge those impulses are so much more advanced than they were even a decade ago.