In the Red Lobster thread Angel wrote "You used a phrase like "I won't let you" and thought I'd adhere to it." and I got to thinking. Absent, "I'm going down to the Navy base and let The Marines run train on me" I put no restrictions of any kind on Mrs. Noland and what she can or cannot do. The reverse is also true. It's not simply that I don't want her gang banged by a bunch of teenaged Marines (I don't) it's just that I've had a relationship theory for a long time that has worked fairly well over the years. "Find a person who will never tell you "no", and then never give them a reason to." If everyone adheres to it, then you don't have to worry about him/her doing something that upsets you. That being said, not everyone follows the rules. FOCUS: Do you have any relationship rules? Dealbreakers. Things you're partner is forbidden to do. Or things that your partner is required to do.