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Rant & Rave Thread

Discussion in 'Permanent Threads' started by Joel Raymond, Oct 19, 2009.

  1. GremlinD

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    Rant: My parents moved in with us last July. We were having a pretty normal Friday. I went to go grab my mother's dog for a walk since she didn't like walking our farm in the dark. I found her unresponsive, slumped over in her recliner. Despite the best efforts of the paramedics and ER doctors, she passed away late that night. Two weeks ago, she went to the doctor for a check for the first time in 20+ years, and was told to just exercise a bit more and alter her diet. Her death was a complete shock and blindsided us.
     
  2. Esian

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    Rave:
    Ten months of divorce proceedings behind me; we have finally reached a binding settlement agreement.

    The last ten months I have been living in my parent's basement, barely able to be involved in the lives of our children, required to deposit the entirety of my paycheck into our joint account only to have her withdrawal the majority of it hours later. We have been to court several times, through mediation attempts, and have racked up more in attorney fees between us than I spent on my first house.

    It's been a disgusting process in which I've had to defend myself against countless false allegations. In court and in public as I jumped through hoops to get our little girl's soccer schedule, medical information, and just in general as I received calls from everywhere in town about the things they had heard.

    We've had countless disagreements where she has done things like stopped giving our daughter prescription antibiotics because despite the ER's diagnosis because she didn't think she was REALLY sick, refused to allow me entry to the home to collect my underwear and other personal belongings, and did basically everything but disappear our children.

    Our children have suffered countless awkward exchanges between us.

    I've failed at my job in nearly every way over the last six months as my life fell apart and I tried to jump through the hoops of the FOC and my now almost Ex. Including the months where they would only schedule 'parenting time' during the absolute middle of my workday. I made every pickup and did every drop-off and enjoyed every minute of the time and have managed to hold onto employment largely through the contributions and coverings of those I work with.

    She ended up walking away with everything we owned together or separately, which is exactly what I offered day one... except now there is nothing left in the bank and we both have enough attorney debt to make a person's head spin.

    I'm nearing 40, no longer own a home, had to sign over the entirety of my retirement accounts, forfeited everything we had in the bank, and I still have to deposit my next couple of checks into our joint account before the paperwork is finalized and child support/alimony kick in... but, I got a schedule with my kids that will allow me to actually be a parent instead of a visitation and the accommodations to which days it is to work around my work schedule so that I can continue to support us all and rebuild.

    ... and I got a huge laugh out of things when her attorney walked out on her, because he was tired of getting screamed at, and refused to come back for a solid five minutes.

    Rant:
    Yet, somehow when I dropped our youngest off last night I still felt nothing but bad for her. As depressing as aspects of my life are at the moment I know I'll get through it all. I'm sure she's devastated and terrified because I don't think she's even capable of taking care of herself anymore. Which makes me worry for our kiddos, but for some stupid reason her as well.
     
  3. Danger Boy

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    When I was 19, a few of the guys I worked with were divorced and in their early 30's. They provided me with a lot of cautionary tales about marriage and divorce. I listened. I'm single at 38, and I'm absolutely positive if any of the serious relationships I've been in had turned to marriage, it would've been a bad deal. Not saying marriage is a bad thing, but if you're going to do it, you better have a damn good understanding of what you're getting yourself into.
     
  4. bebop007

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    Rave: Got a promotion today. In terms of responsibility/workload/whatever, it's meaningless. But, it is a pay bump and a title change. Two things that certainly don't hurt.

    Minor Rant: That does make it harder to leave here. It's a comfortable job that requires minimal effort. But it's a total dead end. Good for now, problematic in future.

    Rave: I had my first dentist visit in over 7 years and didn't have any cavities or any other issues. I figured I was good since I was not having pain or any other issues. But still, I was more that a little worried going in.

    Potential Rant: With all the good that has happened, my mind is now on guard for something bad to happen. The universe has never let me have too much joy at once and I feel like I've accumulated too much to get by without a correction.
     
  5. Clutch

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    Rant: My boss told me I have to provide a weekly report of what I'm working on each day because he "wants to know what I'm spending my time on."

    Rant: He told me this in an email at 10:30pm while he is in California all week for a conference he isn't even attending. He just used it as an excuse to get the company to give him a free week off and pay for the plane ticket, but he gets away with shit like that because he's related to the owner.

    Rave: I checked my sent messages this morning, and it doesn't look like I quit while I was blackout drunk last night.
     
  6. walt

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    Rant: I don't condone what those bus drivers do to students in some of the videos you may have seen online lately, but on a day like today, I understand.