Considering that outside of economics, acting selfishly is generally considered "wrong" and acting altruistically is generally considered "right," I found the terms to be relevant enough to the discussion. And I don't particularly get off on calling you out, because I get annoying semantic arguments about every particular word choice I made. That having been said, you indeed never said you thought you were doing the right thing, and applauded those who do donate. My mistake. Beyond that, I don't understand what trauma you and your entire family went through that the mere thought of a loved one's organs being used to help others evokes words like "pain, suffering, and horror" for the rest of their lives, but I wish you the very best.