Yes, but I only have guesses as to why, so don't hate me if I get everything wrong. 1) This happened to me once I established an actual emotional intimacy with someone. I know that my kinky side relies a lot on adrenaline. While it's not to say that trust relates directly to vanilla sex, once the "honeymoon" phase was over and we were very comfortable with each other, adrenaline levels didn't spike quite as high, which lessened my pain tolerance. I think, anyway. 2) It is very daunting to be a submissive who attempts to teach dominance to someone who isn't experienced at it. It got to me too much once. I felt like the dominance only happened because he knew I wanted it, not because he wanted to dominate me. The attitude makes a big difference, and it almost made me feel like he was faking it, which doesn't excite me.
Nothing too crazy, although they seemed kinda fucked at the time. First time I was asked to choke was a one night stand years ago, and we weren't even fully naked yet. That threw me off a bit. Shortly after that I had a fuck buddy who is still the only girl to push my boundaries. Choking/gagging, spanking/slapping, general humiliation, and she was very much interested in getting DP'd (not happening with me). Oh and I once "picked her up off the streets" (she was out drinking with friends), as a hooker fantasy (her idea) where I did things my fake girlfriend wouldn't let me do to her. That was fun. Since that time though, those things have become fairly common in my sex life (minus the hooker fantasy, DP and face slapping). I love feeling a girl's neck during sex but have no desire to squeeze unless asked (which is surprisingly frequent). I've read too much Dan Savage (and others) to know how dangerous that is, regardless of precautions, so I've never done it to the point she passes out (to at least two girl's disappointment). As for requests I've made, two come to mind. One was with the above fuck buddy. I wanted her to take sleeping pills so she'd be completely passed out and I could do whatever I wanted. Now, I could already do whatever I wanted, and when I fantasized about it, I didn't think of doing anything more than I already had, but something about having actual COMPLETE control was a huge turn on. We talked about it, and she was intrigued, but we never made it happen. Ah well. The other was with my most recent ex. A double facial. It was awesome, and ended up happening quite a few more times as a more spur of the moment occurrence. Good times. This site isn't as funny as it should be: <a class="postlink" href="http://www.effeduppillowtalk.com/index.php" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;">http://www.effeduppillowtalk.com/index.php</a>
Have sex, finish on her face. Don't clean it up, have sex and finish on her face again. Was like my own personal mini-bukkake (great band name). Highly recommended if the girl is into it.
But do you kiss her anymore during the second coital session? It seems like you might come(haha) dangerously close to getting it on your own face.
Yeah, in that situation I picture my bottom half thrusting away while I push on the bed trying to keep my torso and head as far away from her as possible.
Focus: I've never been into anal, so a girlfriend from a few years ago had me DP her with a rather unassuming dildo. Ended up doing it on a semi-regular basis after that. Crazy, I know. Alt-Focus: A girl I dated for a couple months last year was a bit of a hair trigger when it came to orgasims, while I seemed to take forever with her. One night while we were trying to keep quiet because her roommate was home, we discovered that I came a lot quicker when I was silent. From then on, she asked that I not make a single sound during sex. I obliged.
Haha, didn't think that would generate more questions. Definitely don't kiss once she's covered, but it pretty much stays on her mouth/chin/cheeks, so I can still suck her tits and whatnot. Never seemed like much effort to avoid it, and the idea was to cum as fast as possible the second time. It's mainly just a hot visual, and I've found that girls, especially my ex, love when you stare intensely (not creepily) at their face during sex, even if it's because they're drooling cum. It's also extremely dominant. I'd call her names and rub it around more and make her suck my fingers clean. Really, truly good times. FOCUS: I've never requested ATM, though I've made it known I am willing. Has happened a couple times and each said they didn't even realize what they were doing until after, and I sure as fuck wasn't gonna stop them.
During my first year living in the dorms, I had a FB who thrived on being physically abused and verbally berated during sex. Not light slapping, but "I want you to hit me as hard as you can" stuff. One time, I kind of overdid it and she had a very swollen lip for about a week. Her cover story was that she slipped on ice (in was January). I'm sure a studio audience of 'The View' would have stoned me if they knew about some of the ways I treated her in the bedroom. I'm dominant in bed, so I'm all about hair-pulling and telling a girl when to shut the fuck up, but smacking her like Deacon Jones and calling her a "stupid, worthless cum whore" because it's the only way she can get off ain't my jam. Now that I look back on it, I don't know how I went along with it as long as I did. Broadening horizons and all that, I guess.
Focus: At the start of law school I dated a girl who loved to be bit and slapped. While it's nothing compared to what has been posted here, it sure felt a little excessive at the time. She would have me bite her nipples incredibly hard, like chewing on an overcooked steak. Multiple bite marks existed for days on her shoulders and back. If I was on top, she wanted me to slap the shit out of her, face and all. I couldn't do it. Biting nipples and stuff is fine but there's no way I can give a chick a fat lip. Choking was also a favorite of hers but the first time she nearly passed out, I was done. The girl I dated in college loved to fuck in places where people could watch/catch us. Her roommate freshmen year watched us fuck and the ex-gf went wild. She just happened to walk in and was invited to stay. The only unfortunate thing about this was that she didn't join in. She was incredibly hot and I would have loved to see her naked.
I dated a girl very briefly back when I started law school who wanted to be slammed into walls during sex. Not like the hot way you sometimes see it movies, but more like MMA style. Evidently, she used to be in a very abusive relationship, but it was only really abusive in the bedroom. According to her, at least. But it was all she ever knew and it became something that made everything else after, pale in comparison. She said stuff about her self-worth being so low that she never thought she could be with anyone else, so she stayed with him. Its like pulling her hair and choking weren't enough. She needed to be hospitalized to enjoy it. Yup, got out of that one.
Just so I'm clear, it seems like the majority of TiBers don't enjoy going all out rough sex/dominance kink. That makes crazy asian kinda sad.
These "freaks" are the people around you every day. They're your Mom and Sister. They're the girl at the checkout counter, and that cute chick in accounting. They're some of your ex-girlfriends who didn't feel comfortable enough, what with that attitude you just espoused, to let you know what they actually wanted sexually. Everyone has some "freak" in them. It just depends on your flavor, and how far you are willing to go down the rabbit hole.
When I was 16 my best friend and I pig roasted a chick. I think I've posted about it here. When I was 19 I was the "caboose" in a five man train which I also think I've posted about here. My current girlfriend though is somewhat of a freak. She loves anything to do with anal, she gladly swallows, she dresses up in lingerie, has a huge toy collection (with quite a few bum toys included), loves to be spanked, likes to be choked and be called stuff like "a dirty fuck hole" from time to time. She squirts too. We worked up to all of that though, I'm guy number two and when we first started dating/fucking it was pretty much missionary with a condom with the lights out. I only have a few hard limits though: only herto (no dudes), no children, no animals. Life is all about trying new things and I'll try anything once as long as it doesn't touch a hard limit.