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Oh baby, that was the best orgasm EVER! You're a rockstar!

Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by vex, Aug 1, 2011.

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Faked orgasms

  1. I'm a woman, and have faked an orgasm

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  2. I'm a woman, and have NEVER faked an orgasm

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  3. I'm a man, and have faked an orgasm

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  4. I'm a man, and have NEVER faked an orgasm

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  5. I'm just here to fuck Chater. I better not have to fake it.

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  1. bebop007

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    Given the bolded part here

    I get the impression that he's putting all of the pressure on himself and by not getting her to climax the requisite two times, the failure is on his end and not hers.
     
  2. scootah

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    I kind of felt the same way a few times in the past. With a partner who has easy orgasms - two or three times before I get off is the benchmark I aim for. With my current partners - a couple of them aren't people who get off easily. Part of figuring out those people was really getting my head around the idea that not only can sex continue past my orgasm, but sometimes it's just a necessary fact. The second learning curve for that is that sex with a partner who just isn't going to get off before I do doesn't mean that I stop trying, or don't have to put effort in. Sex is really fucking fun, independent of the orgasm.

    I have faked orgasms in the past, the usual in a condom and make sure she doesn't see. Bad sex, too much booze, too many drugs or too little recharge between one round and the next. I used to have a few more issues about saying 'it's just not gonna happen right now'. If it's too tired/too trashed to finish - I soften that with a 'but lets try again later'. But if it's bad sex? Well, maybe they need to know it's time to try a bit harder.
     
  3. mya

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    Not really, the reason many women fake it in the first place is so they don't hurt the feelings of the guy because the guy wants to feel like he was able to give her the pleasure of the orgasm. So when somebody is putting this much emphasis on this (TWICE), there is pressure regardless of whether he is directing it at himself or her. We have all had those days where it just aint going to happen, no matter what. If you know that this is the way that the guy feels, how do you not feel a little bit pressured when you know that this just isn't going to happen. During those times maybe I don't really want you pulling out all of the stops, maybe I will just enjoy it for what it is and get on with the day/night.

    And for anybody (Nom) who is keeping a running tally to see how the TiBettes fit the norm, count me as another that probably isn't going to cum through penetration alone.
     
  4. MoreCowbell

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    I feel like I've mentioned this way too many times on here, but I've faked it for that exact reason. More than once. I don't get off particularly easily, and it's even worse with a condom on. The pressure might be bigger with guys, because it's less common that the guy doesn't get off. It's seen as a major problem.

    If a guy isn't gonna finish, there's about a 50-50 shot that it ends in a insecure pile of tears.
     
  5. LatinGroove

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    The first time my last girlfriend and I fooled around, she almost broke into tears because she thought something was wrong with her.

    Focus: I've never faked it but I'm sure at least one girl has faked it. I've always wanted to make sure my lady is satisfied in anyway possible. It is understandable that sometimes you might be feeling a little weird in the fact you're tired, drunk, etc so she might not always orgasm. I've been in a few situations where I didn't orgasm and was just upfront with the woman and there was no hard feelings. Most of the women I've been involved with did the same with it and it was much appreciated.
     
  6. dense

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    I have been with several girls that I know full where I didn't get them to climax, mainly (I would like to think), because they were generally one time deals. If I found out that someone I had been with for an extended period of time had been faking I would be a bit upset. I'd much rather have someone tell me what works for them than have them fake it for awhile only for me to find out that it wasn't really happening.

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    Only faked it once about eight years back, was too drunk to finish the deed and we had been going on for what seemed like forever. She always wanted me to pull out even with a condom on, so I just went through the motions. As to why? I really just wanted to go to bed at that point.
     
  7. audreymonroe

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    I have the opposite problem. It is a frequent problem for me that guys think I've had an orgasm when really it is just the approaching-orgasm noises/squirming etc. So then they stop right when it's getting really good. Then I either find it really awkward or embarrassing to say "Um....nope....keep going...." and/or when I'm close I am pretty much physically incapable of producing speech, especially logical speech, so then I'm lying there with my brain all scrambled and not able to do anything about it. Well, except to lunge at him in order to proceed with the sexing, but I'm a tally for the "not really able to have an orgasm from penetration, especially when I haven't had one during foreplay" side of the chart, so that doesn't really work.

    I know that it's a simple answer of "communication is key" but it's the same exact thought process as faking it. When it's clear that they're proud of themselves for "giving you an orgasm" or especially when they ask how many I had or comment on it or anything along those lines, it isn't exactly easy to look at them and tell them it was all in their head and I am actually pretty sexually frustrated at the moment.
     
  8. Stealth

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    I don't mind if they fake orgasms as long as they are ok with me faking being in a relationship with them.
     
  9. Chirpy

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    I've certainly faked it before and mostly just to give encouragement to the guy that I was with. It's not that I wasn't enjoying myself because just having sex is pretty much awesome, but rather my body just wasn't cooperating with me at the time. Sometimes I'm too preoccupied with thoughts going through my head and can't relax enough to really get into it. Sometimes you could tie me straddled to a jack hammer and turn it on full blast and it just isn't going to happen. And truthfully, sometimes the sex isn't about cumming at all so I really don't care if I get mine as long as HE is having a great time. These times are rare, thank God, but they do happen.

    Now that I'm older, though, I don't bother wasting the energy to fake it because I'm learned that the rewards come later (pun intended). I'm just honest about it. And luckily, so is he. If one of us is too fucked up to finish, then just say "it isn't going to happen tonight," roll over, and go to sleep. I don't think either one of us sees it as a failure because we're past the days where giving/having an orgasm is seen as a trophy sport. Truthfully, on those nights it's kind of exciting NOT to finish...like a prequel to what is going to happen in the morning...long, hard, hot morning sex where I will actually wonder if I'll be . There's nothing wrong with a little pleasure delay and teasing. Mmmmmmm. Done and done thankyouverymuch.
     
  10. Jimmy James

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    I'd rather have a penis covered with her saliva than either.
     
  11. Kubla Kahn

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    You know I don't remember any time I haven't at least tried to have the girl finish me off with a BJ if I had whiskey dick and wasn't going to be completing in the vag*. The very few times that didn't work I just admitted I was way to drunk. Never once has a girl gotten up in her head about it. Then again a majority of the times I've hooked up has been with one night stands.


    * It can be pretty uncomfortable straining the legs and focusing as hard as possible. But unlike dude that NEEDS to get a girl off twice and could just beat off otherwise, having a girl finish me off is ten times more satisfying mentally than anything else.


    edit: Since none of the girls answered I'll repost since I am generally curious:
    Question do girls feel guys cumming? Do you feel the pump action of the shaft or the little squirts of jism hitting your insides?
     
  12. Juice

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  13. Roxanne

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    Jeez, no need to yell.

    Yes, it's easy to know when a guy is cumming. Near the head swells a bit and everything gets just a bit harder, then releases and swells down. If he's not wearing a condom, I can definitely feel him cumming inside me.

    Obviously it's easier to tell when giving head, but with just straight sex there are still those same warning signs.
     
  14. Misanthropic

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    I faked an orgasm with a girl who was giving a really bad hand job. One would think this would be impossible - I mean it's right there in front of her - or should be. Except she wasn't very bright, and I usually produce lots of pre-ejaculate, so I convinced her that I simply had had a busy week, and was practically shooting dust at that point.
     
  15. hooker

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    I can't believe more men than women have fakes orgasms.

    Thank God I swallow - so I always know for sure.
     
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    I once took a fistful of cottage cheese and threw it as hard as I could into a woman's face. To protect her feelings.
     
  17. Trakiel

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    Don't worry Hooker, as of this post based on the poll responses only 60% of guys have faked while 83% of the women have. You don't need to worry yet.

    Edit: Thinking about this whole issue I wonder what the responses would've been to this poll taken 15-20 years ago. Have we as a society been faking more or less as time's gone by?
     
  18. AlmostGaunt

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    I've never had a girl fake it to my knowledge. I am reasonably confident this is the case because every girl I've slept with, at one time or another, has said 'nope, not gonna happen, better luck next time'. I'm sure this is in part because I tend more towards the FWB deal than one night stands. Sucks when it happens, but you gotta know when to hold 'em, when to fold 'em, know when to walk away, know when to run... wait, what?

    In my first relationship, the girl went on birth control which stopped her finishing for about 6 months. Jesus fucking Christ they were some depressing months. Probably the only person that felt worse about it than me was her. It strained our relationship a bit, as we both felt inadequate. Even then, though, she never faked. I suspect it comes of growing up listening to / reading Dan Savage who makes some very cogent arguments about why you shouldn't fake.

    I've seen a couple of messy break-ups where the girl has started yelling "well I faked it every time I was with you". This has always struck me as a strange argument. Basically, you are saying that you fucked someone repeatedly, pleasuring them each time, but didn't take steps to get your own pleasure? Congratulations, you sound retarded / desperate to please.

    Honorable mention: a friend of mine dated a guy for 4 years who couldn't get her off. She faked for the first TWO YEARS, then finally came clean. He blamed her for being broken. This all came to a head at a party at my place, he cracked a joke about finding a girl with a working vag and she said something like 'hey, I do just fine with my hand, it's only when you're involved that I can't get off'. Dead silence, then we all piss ourselves laughing. He went mental and tried to punch her. He was escorted out, she broke up with him, and that was the last time I spoke to him. I'm not sure what the moral of the story is there, but I laugh every time I think of that party.
     
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    Yes. You can feel the head get hard, the tempo change and the hot rush...
     
  20. Kubla Kahn

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    That's two girls that said the head gets bigger. Now you're going to have me staring at my cock the neck time I crank it. My head only seems to change size between average boner and raging hard on. Never noticed it change size right at the moment of truth.