Something that happened at work a while back: We have a fellow who works with us who's a tad annoying. Very loud, socially awkward, an 18-year-old kid trapped in a 30-year-old body. He started dating a girl, and they moved in together within three months of knowing each other. Given his personality, this seemed odd and caused some gossip. Come to find out the baby is due in October. Anyway, back when they were moving in together a coworker and I were talking about it. Her: And he has such bad credit! Me: What? What the hell are you talking about? Her: Look. [Opens up a web browser, searches his name on a provincial database and brings up notices of all the companies he's in arrears to.] Look, they're garnisheeing his wages! Me: Holy shit, I don't want to see that! Why would you look something like that up? Her: I was curious if he had any judgements against him. Personally, I go out of my way not to snoop. Growing up, I had a mother that if she found a letter sitting on a table, she'd read enough of it to figure out who it belonged to, stop reading right there, and place it back in your room untouched. I never had to worry about someone reading my journal or going through my things, and I try to extend that courtesy to others. Focus: Are you nosey? Any snooping habits? Alt Focus: Ever been the snoop-ee? Had your things gone through or someone nosing about who shouldn't be? Funny stories welcome.
To be clear you don't mean peeping in windows while women are changing right? Right ok. Next subject. On topic. This is one of those social things I have been almost 100% oblivious to my entire life. Gossip, drama, nosey behavior, all of which have a little place in everyday life, it is part of the whole, but, I never gave a ounce of shit about anyone else and never really gave a fuck what others thought or new about me (even when I was right to be guarded or concerned). But people who put too much stock or effort in it disgust me to no end. I work at a marketing research company. At my office Im one of 8 dudes and probably 30+ women in the entire office. Im being trained as a suporvisor, the CFO of the company is the only guy above me, the rest of the suporvisors, project managers, and head manager (as well as the owner) are all female. The amount of gossip, snooping, prying, drama, and all around bullshittery are pretty epic. Everyone thinks everyone else is the worst fuck up in existence, every detail of the shittiest of workers is analyzed and judged (Ughh, did you know Janice is fucking up this project? ooh yeah and she's got a date tonight...But the guys married ugghhh, it's a surprise her first husband left her as much as she has a thing for married guys. Guess if it is her own it's not as fun). The girl that basically got me promoted tells me almost every single one of the other supervisors/managers hates me. You couldn't tell by the way they act around me and there is a chance it's part of her playing the girl drama game but FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCK. Normally I am very candid about my life when I converse with people. Like for instance, the fact that I got a DUI but beat it at trail, is something I really have no qualms telling people about. Besides the fact that having even the charge on the record isn't good for employment, I wouldn't want these jackels ever finding out about this shit.
Most of the reason that I got into journalism was that I would get paid to get all up in people's shit. So, yeah, I'd say I'm nosy.
Alt. Focus: When we first moved in together, I caught my fiance browsing through my text messages. She happened to find one between my best friend and I that contained something she wasn't happy about. I don't remember exactly what, but I think it was something about drugs and how eating mushrooms again would be fun--though no plans were made to do that, it was just a discussion. She had a hissy fit and I let her get it out of her system and explained to her that I did some things in college that I hadn't talked to her about, that they were, indeed, fun, but that I've moved past that part in my life and I'm not doing that stuff anymore. Once the dust settled from that, I told her that if I ever find out she's been looking through my phone without my permission again, we're over. No questions asked...done. This was her one chance. I put a lot of effort into creating relationships built on trust and to have someone go behind my back like that is a huge betrayal. I told her that if she has any questions/ doubts/ whatever, talk to me and I'll be honest.
I'm about the least nosey person in the world to the point that it drives my wife nuts. I distance myself so far from gossip and drama that I'm the brick wall that stops the grapevine. I don't share personal stuff with people and I expect the same from them. If you don't ask me a direct question, I'm not going to offer up the information. My coworkers didn't even know I had a girlfriend until almost a year after I started dating my wife. It just never came up.
Co-signed. Jealousy, gossip, privacy violations are all a strict no-no to me. I probably got it from my parents, who were so adamant at teaching me that there are two sides to every story, and the most important thing in the world is facts. I don't pry into people's lives, and I don't hide shit from people I know, especially my wife. We keep nothing hidden: we joined our bank accounts the day we moved in together, we know each other's email passwords, it's all on the table and it helps sooooooooo much. Blabber-mouths and shit disturbers reserve the same table in Hell along with people in marketing and "club promoters": absolute, unapologetic scum.
I've only snooped twice in my life because I had overwhelming suspicions that I was being cheated on or played. I was right both times. On the other hand, I don't password protect my phone and I don't care about giving girls I've been dating access to stuff. Then again, I also have learned to offer a lot of information so there is never a reason to snoop.
The old lady looks through my phone all the time, so just to fuck with her the other day I loaded the local area backpage escort section in the browser and left it up, shit really hit the fan. Honestly it doesn't bother me, I don't have anything to hide so what do I give a shit.
What Audrey said. I got into accounting cause I was nosey and always wanted to know how someone is doing financially. Now I get paid to satisfy my curiosity and hopefully help them. I try not to overhear conversations or read notes, mess with anyone's computer as now I realize that I probably really do not want to know anything about them..
Alt Focus: Ever been the snoop-ee? Had your things gone through or someone nosing about who shouldn't be? Funny stories welcome. Do police searches count? Anyway, my ex-wife was/is a terrible snoop. To this day, when I go to pick up Li'l Bandit, I have to leave my phone locked in my car; I can't risk accidentally setting it down at her house and having her get her hands on it. The last time I did that, she went through my contacts list and wrote down the number for every woman on the list, and called them up later to ask what their business was with me (this was AFTER we had already split up, by the way). That stunt ruined a relationship I had going at the time; the girl I was dating dumped me because she didn't want to have to deal with my ex-wife calling her at 2 AM to bitch at her. My ex even changed the lock code on my phone so I couldn't keep her out; the phone company won't change it unless I cough up about 30 bucks or so (fuck you, Sprint). When we were still together, she would snoop through my things/wallet/truck constantly. But god forbid I pick up her phone to check the time, or go into her room when she's not there. She hits the goddam roof and starts yelling about her privacy. In conclusion, my ex-wife is one of the biggest hypocrites I've ever known.
I occasionally check the browser history on my daughters' laptops, but I consider that parenting and not snooping. And once the oldest turned 18, I stopped checking hers (geez, there's a metric fuckton of fan fiction sites out there). But checking credit reports on a co-worker or employee? I don't even look at their Facebook pages. HR at the university does a pretty thorough background check including criminal and credit histories for potential new hires, so if any red flags pop up for a candidate I send them, I'm alerted to it.
I'm a nosey person in some aspects. For fun I've gone out to the states public records site and looked up some coworkers for shits and giggles. It's kind of neat to look up your parents criminal record from when they were younger. As for being snooped on, I don't have anything to hide. Yes I have pictures of the girl on my phone I'd prefer you not to see but there isn't anything that would cause me harm, maybe a little grief from friends though.
I don't like not knowing things, so I'm an incredible snoop. When I've dated women long-term, I've looked at their texts, call histories, and SIM cards. On the flip side, if I'm going to do that then they're welcome to do the same to me; and a few of them have. Seeing as how this is a fairly anonymous board, I'll also admit I'm the sort of asshole who hacks into Facebook and e-mail accounts. Ex's, total strangers, and whoever seems interesting. I don't do it as often as I once did, but once in a blue moon I'll sit down and screw around with people's shit. Snooping actually isn't always a bad thing. By looking at the phones of a couple of ex's, I discovered they were both cheating on me with various other men. By snooping around one of my ex's phones, I discovered the child she was claiming was mine, actually belong to a guy she went to school with. I called her out on it, and it likely saved me from paying child support for the next 15 years. Like fleafly up there, I also use public records and court system records to keep tabs on certain people. Sometimes for shits and giggles, and other times just to know who is where.
My dad's coworkers didn't know that his wife was in the hospital giving birth until afterwards when there was a picture of an infant on his desk. "I had no idea she was even pregnant!" "Well, you didn't ask."
I don't really care what other people do. I don't check my wife's phone, never googled her, checked criminal record, etc. And I'm married to her. You think I would bother with people I don't particularly care about? Then again, my laziness is often underestimated...
I am not really nosey... but I've snooped on my sisters cell bill and then call numbers I did not recognized just to see who she was talking to. I did caught her on a lie.....so I am not sorry I did it. Thinking about it, its not snooping when I paid that bill, right?
I've had enough drama in my life to last three lifetimes. I listen to my gut, and if it's saying I need to check email or phone, rather than doing that, I discuss what's happening. My gut has never ever been wrong, though my handling of the situation may have left something to be desired. As for other people...I don't know...I don't WANT to know...and truthfully, for the most part, I don't give a damn about other peoples' lives. I'm so tunnel visioned on my own shit - my business, my kids, and my family, that unless a person is someone I've already connected with, I'm not interested in learning too much about them.
I read everyone's PMs. There are at least two guys here that think the same tibette is exclusive with them. Juicy.
I dont know if you were around when Jojo was on the TMMB, but back then this was known as being an ´instigating negro´.