Just Do It (Yourself)

I've gotten into a conversation with a girl friend who has become self conscious about having to flick her own bean during sex to orgasm. Anything else just won't cut it, but she's worried that if she just hops on and starts DJing without any warning with a new guy he'll completely freak out.

I told my own opinion (I wouldn't bat an eye) but apparently there are people out there who would mind, so-


Focus for guys: Do you mind when a girl starts playing with herself?
Focus for girls: Do you do the do during?

 

If it means less work for me, I'm all for it.

 

Sounds like you're underestimating the difficulty of thrusting, pulling hair, grabbing boobs, slapping ass and flicking clit, all at once. I'll never turn down quality help.

 

I'm secure enough with myself that my ego doesn't need any boosting. Isn't getting laid enough of an ego boost by itself?

If I can snap my fingers and the girl follows me to the bedroom, I'll have more time to spend on the foreplay thing. If I have to spend over an hour coaxing you out of your clothes and into the bed, I've put in my time. I've got other shit to do.

 

Not only would I not mind, but I find this really hot. It shows enthusiasm and means that everyone involved is thereby having a better time. Two thumbs up.

 

This. How would somebody mind this? I enjoy watching girls* play with themselves when I'm NOT also engaged in having sex with them. Yes, hot.

* Videos, pictures, etc. not through a hole in the wall, you pervs.

 

How is it anything but hot? And what kind of self-conscious prick would "freak out" over this? Isn't it pretty much EXACTLY the same as stroking it while getting your balls sucked? My god, I feel bad for girls in general, but especially for any girls who've had to deal with a douchebag getting upset over them getting off which, as I understand it, is one of the main reasons anyone has sex.

This brings back some wonderful memories of a girl I dated a few years ago. For whatever reason, according to her, I "fit" inside her particularly well and, in unison with her playing (or "Jilling off", as she liked to call it), it would take her less than a minute to get off. This made her super wet, which alllowed me to last longer (and also felt so, soooo good), which allowed her to get off again, and again, until she was nearly too dizzy and light-headed to continue, at which point I'd finish in her mouth (her preference).

Aaaand now I'm realizing how long my dry spell has been going on and I'm kinda sad.

 

I only have two hands. There's hair to pull, ass to smack, boobs to grab and play with. Let's be honest, that's where my priorities are. If she wants to lend me another set of hands and help out with the bean flicking, shit by all means go ahead!

 

Women have orgasms?

 

I am with Lust.

 

Of the men I've slept with (and I'm a whore, there's been many), I can think of only 2 that minded, and they minded a LOT. The rest fell into two camps of either not seeming to care or even notice, or were really into it.

 

I assume this was a huge turnoff, right? Because it strikes me as super insecure/selfish.

 

Opposing female masturbation causes the Nazis to win.

NSFW

 

Very much so. Firstly because it makes it seem like my getting off is not a priority, and also that they're so insecure they 'can't do the job' themselves that they'd never want to go outside of the box (pun intended) sexually speaking. If something so minor is going to be that big an issue, why on earth would I want to keep sleeping with someone who would never want to do anything other than utterly vanilla, every day sex. Might as well turn the lights off and cut a hole in the sheet.

 

Here's what pisses me off:

He doesn't last long enough to make me have a vaginal orgasm....even with manual assistance from my magical hands. Fine, whatever, some men are just like that and you have to work around it sometimes.

But then you don't just get to SIT THERE while I have to get myself off. And no, kissing me and halfheartedly playing with my boobs doesn't fucking count as participating. If you're consistently not making me cum, MAYBE YOU SHOULD EXERT SOME GODDAMNED EFFORT AND USE YOUR OWN HANDS/MOUTH AFTER YOU GET YOURSELF OFF. AND MAYBE I SHOULDN'T HAVE TO TELL YOU TO DO THAT. MAYBE YOU SHOULD JUST WANT TO DO IT ALL ON YOUR OWN. MAYBE YOU SHOULD STOP BEING A SELFISH DOUCHELORD BECAUSE YOU SUCK AND I CAN'T BELIEVE THAT WOMEN OTHER THAN ME HAVE PUT UP WITH THIS SHIT WHEN THEY'VE FUCKED YOU.

I can capslock rage about this all day. It makes me livid.

Focus: If I'm in a position to do so, I will...sometimes. I just find it superfluous, though. I am 1000% capable of getting off from penetrative sex alone. Unless it's anal sex--I need to be playing with myself in order to fully enjoy that experience.

 

Its good to know Pinkcup isn't one bit sexually frustrated.

I don't know why a guy would be offended. Part of the fun is knowing your partner is having fun too I think. If I knew my girl wasn't enjoying herself as much as she could be I would try my best to make sure she was satisfied and happy.

 

When I start feeling better, I am going to climb a mountain of dicks and slide down with my legs and mouth wide open. Can't wait.