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It's in the nag.

Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by Crown Royal, May 13, 2014.

  1. Crown Royal

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    Just call me Topher

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    Lately there's been some discussion on domestic issues of raising children, here's a study geared at adults at home:


    "Keep nagging your man and you'll send him to an early grave, a new study claims.

    Carried out by scientists at the University of Copenhagen and published in the Journal of Epidemiology and Community Health, the study says men may be more significantly affected because they tend to keep problems bottled up and have weaker support networks than women.

    According to The Independent, scientists studied data from 9,875 men and women between the ages of 36 and 52. All were asked questions about their everyday social relationships.

    Researchers analyzed the connection between recurrent arguments and general worry in relationships and mortality, and discovered that people who had reported frequent demands from a partner had a 50-100% increased mortality risk. Those who experienced regular conflicts within any type of relationship had a two to three times increased mortality risk, they claim.

    “Having an argument every now and then is fine, but having it all the time seems dangerous," study researcher Rikke Lund, an associate professor of medical sociology at University of Copenhagen, said. “Worrying about people is a character of us loving them. It's just when it takes up all of your time that it's unhealthy."

    About one in 10 participants in the study said their partners or children were a frequent source of worry or placed excess demands on them."


    Focus: Discuss.

    Possible Alt-Focus: In general, is your day-to-day far more stressful than it ought to be? Have you learned to cope with pressure or does it eat at you and therefore must be stopped?
     
  2. The Village Idiot

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    Porn Worthy, Bitches

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    I truly don't know how people with kids do it. I don't have a lot of stress in my life, but more stress than there ought to be. Between getting the usual odds and ends done around the house, there's always scheduling issues, things need to get cleaned, car needs to get fixed, etc.

    Lately my schedule has been crazy and all over the place. The way I've learned to deal with stress is after 9 p.m. the phone goes off, I don't respond to e-mail/etc. I find if I do that stuff early (around 7 a.m.) it makes my day go much smoother and I'm more on top of things, which reduces my stress. I do lots of 'lists' of things that need to get done that day (and actually use icalender for this purpose).

    These two tidbits have helped me manage my schedule, and greatly reduced stress.
     
  3. Crown Royal

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    I of course have my "coping mechanism" that's pigeon-holed me on the board as the resident stoner, but I live gardening. I know, I know. GHEYYYY But it's a great way to take your mind of things, by trying to create something pleasant-looking and I'm not exactly surrounded by "natural beauty" where I live.

    What drives me crazy is every single person who says "I don't like drama." Mainly because the people who say that go out of their fucking way to create, stir-up and maintain stressful drama as much as humanly possible. They intentionally get bent out of shape for the most insignificant things and their excuse is that everybody is stupid but them. Own your own problems or shut the hell up.

    Also, anybody who says "I don't think you understand how busy I am" is a douchebag. Guess what? We're ALL busy. That's the life of an adult and nobody feels sorry for you.
     
  4. AlmostGaunt

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    Hahaha. Sob. The older I get, the more my worrying coalesces around finding a partner I want to wake up next to rather than just go to bed with. In my younger days I coped by eating; these days I tend towards more chemical distractions.
     

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