I grew up in a very uptight family. Physical displays of affection were verboten, You didn't even hug anyone, ever. When I was about 19 or so my best friend was from a very physically demonstrative family and they taught me that normal folks would hug the people they cared about. This was completely foreign to me. It had never even entered my mind that I could, should, or even think about hugging anyone. To give you an idea of how ingrained this whole non affection thing was ingrained in my family, a couple years ago I made my 80 year old mother dinner for Thanksgiving and she put out her arms, half way and unsure what to do next. I grabbed her and gave her a hug. She just went limp. She didn't know how to hug a person, even her own child. I find that incredibly sad, for both of us. Focus: Are you from a physically demonstrative family? Or a family that shuns any physical contact?