So in January I split with my wife from three years. I'm still recovering from it, but that's for another topic. One thing I've found is that I function much better and I'm much happier when I'm with someone, and I've been actively trying to find a special girl again for the last 3-4 months. I've had some mild success, mostly because I feel I've been off my game lately. This morning I had to see a nose specialist to fix my nose since I broke it (with my own knee) at BJJ practice on Monday night. The doctor was super cute, I kept joking through the whole thing, and I felt a good vibe, but I didn't act on it. I even had an excuse to go back 5 minutes later because I had lost my watch somehow, I was alone in a casual context with her, and even then I choked and didn't ask her out. Somehow, I can't find back the ''who cares, you'll be dead someday, just go for it'' feeling that makes you jump at opportunities without self-doubt showing its ugly face. I've missed a few openings in the last few weeks and it made me realize I need to change something about my current mental state, I'll have to work on it. Focus: Ever been too self-conscious when approaching people? How did you fix it? Alt. focus: What's your game like? How do you approach people that interest you? Are you the shameless kind who can go to anyone and say whatever pops through your head, or a you a neurotic who has to make a detailed step-by-step plan just to go break the ice? What has worked best for you?