I hate the commercialism. I hate being bombarded by radio and internet ads trying to sell me on shit "she'll LOVE!!!" but I know she'll hate or think is lame. I hate the douchebag boyfriends that only buy their girlfriends/wives flowers on this day and have to brag/discuss how many and how much they sent/spent. I hate the sentimental cards that are printed by the million and as common as my morning piss. I hate how restaurants reduce their menu to essentially shit and then mark it up in an attempt to make it special. Fuck all that shit. Instead the tradition is for me to make her her favorite meal, open a nice bottle of wine, and sit at the dining room table rather than eating in front of the TV or in the kitchen. We talk about plans for the future and then remind each other of all the things that we've done for each other over the year that we really appreciated. The little shit that usually gets taken for granted. (Ex: She'll tell me that she loves the fact that she never has to shovel a flake of snow or brush off her car since I park it in the garage and warm it up for her every night before she goes to work. I tell her that I love the fact that she understands that I don't like my button up shirts super soft and washes them separately to get them just right.) Even though I hate the holiday aspect of Valentines Day I love that we have our own tradition once a year.
So on a different note: I'm hell bent on finding a custom-label wine for this year. You know the drill, select the type of wine, create a cutesy label with her name and "love" somewhere on there, give it to her on the 14th and pretend she's not a prostitute even though that night equates to some expensive sex. Unfortunately, the few places I've tried will only deliver it when someone is present to sign for it (who is over the age of 21); they recommend shipping it to a business. Well, for reasons involving both my home (ranch, a mile away from the street and I won't be home) and place of business (uh... yeah, not going to happen), I just can't make that feasible. Any ideas?
This Valentine's Day, I plan on masturbating on a webcam with an audience (hopefully) full of women more desperate and lonely than I am. Or. I'll call my fuckbuddy, bring over some Fat Tire and use her tits for penile target practice. I win either way.
I've been on both sides of this. I've dated women that LOVED Valentine's day, and women that didn't. It wasn't until I started dating women that didn't care about Valentine's day that I realized how little I cared about celebrating it. Now that I'm married, I'm also happy to say that my wife thinks it's extremely commercial and overrated.
This may go without saying, but DO NOT go out to eat on Valentine's Day. Don't even try. Don't call a few days early, because they will be booked. Don't make a reservation, because if you do get a table you will be rushed out the door by the servers who know the manager overbooked (and why should they care? It's more tips). So, "surprise" her a few days early with a nice dinner somewhere she won't expect, then check out here to have flowers sent to the table. Also, I have experience with this place (engraved rocks) and they look really cool. If she's not living with you, give her one rock to keep at her place, one rock at yours (so put something like "For" and "ever" on them), and tell her that "maybe one day we'll put them in our garden" or some mushy shit like that. She'll eat it up, and as long as your buddies don't see you, it'll work great. I know the vast majority of this thread is against Valentine's Day (as am I), but I also know that the majority of this board is full of males who -- whether we like it or not -- have to do something for our significant other, less we end up in the doghouse and, worse, without a warm place to put our dick for a few days. Unless her period happens to coincide with Vday, in which case you jump for joy because all the pressure is off and you can sit back and drink a beer or six, content in knowing you weren't going to get sex for a few more days anyway. (oh, and that wine place I mentioned is here)
So, it looks like I'm going to be in san diego, sans wife, this Valentines day getting fuckin destroyed in 70 degree weather. Do I win?
Single again so the same song and dance - buy my mom some flowers and then take her out to lunch/dinner somewhere. Thereby perpetuating my eternal meandering in the gray (grey for my canadian colleagues) area between relatively well-adjusted and Norman Bates.
I am going to the Slayer and Megadeath show on the 14th with a woman who I am interested in. Always wanted to see both bands and I am pretty impressed that she wanted to go.
Well I haven't been single on Valentine's Day since 2005, and I didn't even think of Valentine's Day until I encountered this thread, so I'm bitter. Fuck all you guys. I'm going to take Kimiko out on a date. Again, fuck all you guys. Did I mention fuck you guys?
I have a wonderful, wonderful girlfriend. The problem with her is that she is far more wonderful than me, and keeping up is a stanley bitch. Every time there is a gift-exchange holiday...Christmas, birthday, Valentine's day, anniversary, whatever, she gets me the most incredible stuff. I think she shops at Needful Things. Me: Happy (whatever), honey. Here, I got that book you were eyeing at the bookstore! Her: Aww, thank you Frylock! You're the best! I got you this one-of-a-kind item signed by your childhood hero, to you, even though he died a decade before you were born! Me: I...uh...what? Uh, holy...I have something in my eye. Jesus fuck. IT IS FUCKING TERRIBLE. It is doubly hard because I am a guy and genetically incapable of remembering small shit like what book she casually mentioned she's always wanted at the bookstore. I have taken to keeping a list in my iPhone of things she casually mentions so when another holiday rolls around I can remind myself what things to go look for. I swear to God every time I look at that list it's like I've never seen it before. And only SIX WEEKS between Christmas and now! MY LIST IS NEARLY EMPTY! I think I have one thing on it. AND I DO NOT REMEMBER WHAT THAT THING IS. Even when she is off her game she outclasses me. I will get her something nice or we'll go on a weekend away or something, and she'll be like "well this is pretty impersonal but it might be fun" and it's 4th row tickets to Mark Knopfler or something. If any of you have any ideas, please forward them on, because my A-game isn't cutting it.
I don't particularly care about doing anything thoughtful for Valentines Day because, for the most part, my girlfriend is pretty inconsiderate and selfish. She has her good points, which is why I stick around, but I wouldn't consider that serious. I took her on a vacation for a week last month, never got a thank you, and she's already sending me emails with flight and hotel rates for places we could go now. Fuck that. Twice I've remembered things she wanted, a coat and purse, from some retard designer companies, and bought them for her for Christmas. Not to mention all the smaller things I've seen her wanting and later gone back to get as gifts. Last Christmas she was thoughtful enough to get me 2 DVD's. One was used. On my 30th birthday, she decided she was mad at me and took off to Florida with one of her girlfriends that genuinely is the town whore. So, no, I don't really give much of a shit about buying her flowers and a nice dinner. Edit: oh, and before you comment that I'm just a sucker or being taken advantage of, she's the best thing I've found, and I'm no prize either.
I am failing to see any qualities whatsoever. I have a great idea for a gift: dump her on Valentine's Day. Judging by the way she treats/feels about you, you'd be giving EACH OTHER the greatest gift of all. Either you're the most tolerant person in the world or she does things to you in the sheets that would make Amber Heard look like your hand.
That's probably because I didn't list any of the positive qualities. I was basically just saying, "She doesn't seem to notice the normal times I do something special for her, and doesn't make that much effort to do anything like that for me. Therefore, I'm not gonna do all the typical Valentines day stuff." However, should a relationship really be a matter of, "Well, I did 1 special thing for her, so now I expect a special gesture from her in return." ? Maybe I'm naive, but that just somehow doesn't quite seem right either.
No, a relationship shouldn't be that, but it certainly should not be what you've described either, which is her being a stuck up, selfish, irrational bitch. Granted, that's your side of the story so we might not have the whole thing, but I'm gonna go with Crown Royal: Happy Valentine's Day, get the fuck out of my house. Also, what positive qualities? She puts out? Der.
Der? What the fuck is that? And yeah, she puts out, but that has nothing to do with it. She has a higher sex drive than I do. Its mostly just that I can actually talk with her, have a decent conversation, and we hardly ever argue. I haven't found that with a lot of girls and it seems kinda important in a relationship to be able to have more to say to each other than, "Bitch, get me a beer" and "hand me the remote." Hardly the basis for a great relationship, but good enough for the moment. I'm not asking for a soul mate.
My girlfriend can be materialistic, but Valentine's Day doesn't worry me too much. It's only one day of the year, and I generally don't spend more than $100. The sex has always been good too. As a bonus I've successfully argued that it's only fair that she adhere to Steak and Blowjob Day in return. Last year was quite successful, but I've told her I actually want a steak as well this year.
I hope she's buying you either a $100 blowjob or a $100 steak next month. As for me, it seems for the second year in a row I won't be with the ball and chain on the 14th, but this time it's not because I've fucked off on a ski trip. Doesn't matter. Most people I know ask me how the hell I have a girlfriend - I hardly do anything for, if I remember, her birthday (she always tries to hide it from me), I don't do fuck all for Valentine's Day, I glibly refer to her as my ball and chain, etc. I'm consistently told "If you keep this up you won't have a girlfriend for much longer", or "Yeah, she doesn't seem mad now, but wait a month and it'll come out", but they're always wrong. It makes me wonder about the rest of the women out there - if genuinely not caring about Valentine's Day and birthdays is abnormal, well, shit.
Well it certainly seems like you're incredibly bitter towards her for taking advantage of you, but maybe that's just me. Wait, this isn't fucking Dr. Phil, what am I doing? FUCK VALENTINES DAY NOBODY EVER GIVES ME NO LOVIN WHAT THE FUCK AUGHSHFHDFJFJ I'm probably going to be el singlo by the time this rolls around (I don't think I've ever given anyone anything on V-Day anyway, except for my dick) so I think I'm going to give a random girl a sock and tell her Happy Valentine's Day.
I'll be visiting my girlfriend this weekend so that means Friday night we're going out to a decent steakhouse. Prior to arrival at her place, I'll stop by said restaurant and drop off a handmade card and handful of flowers to be set on the table I've reserved. The card will cost me next to nothing and I live near a flower distributor where I can get roses for damned cheap. It won't require much effort or cost but I know she'll appreciate it.