Well, it's that special time of year soon again. That time of year where Hallmark decides to rip our paycheques apart because somebody in our life demands it. I can't think of a more uselsess celebration out of 365 days than Valetine's Day. The day where the magic of stale chocolate hearts, over-priced flowers and mercy sex comes through our cities like the tenth plague. The day that sociopathic assholes send roses to their girlfriends at work so every other girl in the office can come home to THEIR husbands/boyfriends pissed off and bitter. Do we honestly need a day to celebrate being with our better halves?!?! That's what anniversaries are for. Just when you couldn't get any worse, now there' an actual MOVIE about it coming up, starring every single cookie-cutter romantic comedy actor and actress in Hollywood. If you go to see this movie I will never, ever speak to you again. Seriously, don't watch this: ...you see, this is why God invented weed. So the poor saps that are suckered into taking their special lady to the theatres can sit through this dreck. I hope they torch the cinemas playing this, Last Temptation Of Christ-style. Focus: Give your honest opinion on how you feel about Valentine's Day. Don't hold back, now.
Valentine's Day is the biggest shitshow holiday out there. Nothing about forced romanticism is romantic. As far as I'm concerned V-Day can suck my non-existent dick. I would honestly much rather participate in that steak and bj day.
Last year I went skiing over Valentine's Day. My buddies were amazed my girlfriend wasn't pissed. This year I will be attending a wedding, which happens to be the Sunday of a long weekend / my reading week. There had better be an open bar.
Why designate a specific day to show how much you care? Don't you love/like/enjoy the person you're celebrating with just as much on February 13th as on the 14th? I vote steak and a BJ day. At least it's a win-win situation that way.
That trailer for 'Valentine's Day' makes me want to laugh, it makes me want to cry, it makes me want to fall in love all over again..... or to just put a gun in my mouth.
Goddam it, I am really dreading Valentine's day this year. I have been casually seeing this woman for a couple of months, and it isn't really going anywhere and I want to break things off. If I don't do it soon, I'm going to have to get her something. It's fun to "wow" a girl with something on Valentine's day and sweep her off her feet, but I just don't feel like it this year.
I haven't had to do shit for Valentine's day for as long as I can remember. All my past girlfriends of course expected something, so therefore, I had to deliver. Nowadays nothing is even wanted, and nothing is given. However, one of our close family friends has a birthday on the 13th of Feb , and we go visit him in San Luis Obispo. He lives in an amazing mansion on a hill. The bathroom is bigger than my living room. We go wine tasting at all the local wineries, most of which are superb, and we eat spectacularly, and my mom picks up the whole tab. Plus, even though I am in my mid-twenties, she still gives me 100 bucks for Valentine's day, so I can't complain.
I'm pretty sure I must be the only guy in the world that doesn't mind valentines day. OH MY GOD I HAVE TO BUY HER FLOWERS AND TAKE HER TO DINNER? THIS IS THE WORST DAY EVER! The only people who hate this day are: 1. Shitty People 2. People in shitty relationships 3. People that have never loved anyone. And don't give me the philosophical bull shit. "It's a day created by Hallmark, blah blah blah." It's a social norm. It happens once a year. Deal with it. It really isn't that big of a burden on you. Unless you are poor, but in that case you shouldn't be in a relationship anyway. You should be figuring out how to pay your bills.
Break your women in early, don't do Valentines from day one. Nothing good will come out of it besides expectations you will one day shatter. Fredricks of Hollywood does great Valentines specials if you feel compelled to give a gift, and they do something special for every holiday.
You know I don't have a problem with it. I've got a Tivo so I miss a bunch of the media manipulation. But is it really that big of a deal? Maybe it's because I've never had a girl expecting gold, candy, flowers, puppies, or whatever stupid crap people are trying to schill. If you can't be bothered to buy a dozen roses just so your gal feels a little special, ON THE SAME DAY everyone else she knows is getting crap, then you are probably a selfish sack of shit. She doesn't quite understand Superbowl Sunday, while I may not understand VD. But if she makes a quip that I didn't also get reservations at Dorsia, she's out on her ass. Side note. The Valentine's Day movie made me think of last year's chick flick: He's Just Not That Into You. Everyone in that was a certifiable piece of shit. Horribly manipulative, demanding, needy, un-actualized wretches of human life. Except Ben Affleck. He was the only stand up character. How the fuck did that happen? Yes, I watched it. Alone. I couldn't wrap my head around whether women actually agreed with anything going on in this flick.
Well, for starters, ix-nay the stuffed animals, chocolate, and roses. Lingerie, candle-lit anything, and rom-coms should also be avoided like the plague. But if you are planning on having sex, DO bring condoms--a baby may literally be the easiest "creative gift" to make! My suggestion? V-Day seems to be about things nowadays. "Prove to me that you love me by buying me something!" Ugh. Well, I disagree strongly with that. V-Day should be about celebrating the LOVE you have for your honey-bunny. So start with that explanation, and end with an invitation to do something super-cool together as a couple. I don't know shit about your relationship, but I do know that every couple has that one thing they really like doing together. Paintballing, teaming up and fragging n00bs, sitting at a sidewalk cafe and making fun of fat people, going to musical shows....whatever. You get the picture. Then go do it, and make some awesome memories. Bring a camera, and then put a picture of yourself getting nailed in the ass with a paintball/screenshot of your WoW character/your laughing faces into a picture frame and hand it to your sweetie. Done.
Even if you are poor there are still things, thoughtful things, you can do. With most rational women, and I stress rational, it's not what you get them, it's not about a bobble or even flowers, it's about thought and time spent. I could give a fuck if he just washes my car for me and really, I'd way rather have that then flowers that will be dead in a week. And you guys always bitch and moan about it so I have to ask, do you not get anything in return? Does she not get you something or do something nice for you, whether or not you got her that necklace or took the time to do something at home you know she'll appreciate? All I'm saying is it isn't that hard to do something nice for someone you care about. I do think there shouldn't be just one day that you really have to think about what your SO would like because you love and care about them. Do you all flex your big manly muscles when you post? I see e-puffing.
Years ago the slummy night club I used to D.J. at we had "Anti-Valentine's Day" every Feb. 13th. It was singles only, we handed out dead roses at the door and had those space shuttle tile-strength candy hearts with "Fuck yourself" printed on it. We hung teddy bears from nooses in the rafters. At the end of the night, all the drunk douchebags jumped up and snatched them for the girls they were going to spend their sexless night with. Look and see:
"That's why I've managed to stay single this whole time." In all honesty, I agree with Frebis. I don't mind it that much. It's about the thought that goes into it, not the money spent (as others have stated). Unless you're dating a complete bitch, something small and thought out (read: something not typical) should be perfectly fine. If she demands jewelery, chocolate, or anything of that other bullshit, chances are that neither of you are mature enough to be in a relationship.
I agree with Frebis and Kratos. I really don't think it is a big deal. The movie will be a a movie. They day itself depends on the girl you are with. I wouldn't be excited about it if she was hinting and expecting something major. The less she expects/hints for shit, the bigger I'll go. But if she's dropping diamond catalogs on my desk, no deal. Also it's a double edged sword with the whole "Why does she want flowers on the same day everyone else is getting flowers." Well, would you want a raise the same day everyone else is getting one? Or if it was March 14th, wouldn't you want a steak and BJ if everyone else was getting one? If you say no to any of the above, just to be different, you're probably an idiot. Life is too short.
We aren't cattle for god sake. If you have to "break her in" in any regard I've got news for you, you're with the wrong one to begin with. EDIT to address below: Why do we need special appointed days to be nice to each other? Or even not nice for that matter? I have good days and bad, like every human. Somedays I'm a Super Bitch and I know that, yet others I'm the opposite. Guys are the same way. We all have good days and bad ones, it's the inbetween ones that should help keep the even keel.
Fine, speaking of two-edged swords...let them compromise: if he has to shower her with blah blah on Feb. 14th, then she HAS to let him act like an animal on March 17th. St. Patty's is our day. And he gets to be as big a prick or as nice a person as she was to him on Valentine's Day.
Nope. Honestly, she doesn't care for Valentine's Day whatsoever. She thinks it's commercialism at its pinnacle. One of the reasons that she is awesome. Asshole.