A few weeks ago, my wife booked an appointment with a therapist for family counseling and our first session is this evening. Some background: Our oldest daughter, 17, has Asperger's syndrome, an autism spectrum disorder. She is a highly intelligent individual, but is challenged when it comes to socialization, reading others' emotions, interpreting social cues, etc. She processes information and the world differently and more often than not, it comes across as nothing more than self-centeredness if you don't have a knowledge and understanding of the disorder. She can lend new meaning to the word frustrating, especially since becoming a teenager. She's been seeing a psychologist for a few years now to learning coping and adjustment skills, but we're really not seeing much progress in her behavior. She's just not putting the tools into practice. She's a year away from going off to college. I am a recovering alcoholic with close to 3 years of sobriety, so up until June of 2008, the Dad my kids knew was the active alcoholic one. I've got a ton of other flaws, but there's a 60,000 character limit to posts. My wife is codependent and an enabler to the extreme. (Right before I got sober, she hit me with divorce papers due to my drinking, and that very weekend, returned from grocery shopping with two cases of Bud Light aluminum bottles for me.) Now, she focuses her enabling 100% on our kids, which has given rise to a heightened sense of entitlement on their parts, and contributes to their lack of taking responsibility. Our youngest, 13, is a very gifted and intelligent girl, but doesn't fully grasp that much of her sister's behaviors are the result of her Asperger's, takes it personally, and sibling shitstorms ensue. Even with all of this, it's still a far better dynamic than the one I grew up in. As a counseling student, I'm all for starting this process tonight and hope we can all draw some insight into how we can improve our dynamic, and wish my birth family had done it, but that was never going to happen and it was what it was. Focus: Has your family (birth or marital) gone through the counseling process? What did you get out of it? Did it bring you closer, or do you now spend the holidays in a Las Vegas suite with a hooker? Alt. Focus: Do you think your family could use it? Why? And what's stopping you?