In my job, I see a lot of people who are dealing with the consequences of a chain of bad decisions. I see sixty pack-year smokers struggling to breathe, drunk drivers who bend their cars around telephone poles, diabetics who refuse to control their disease, welfare women on their fifth pregnancy, and all manner of retarded, drunken power tool accidents. This has had a perverse affect on me - rather than becoming depressed or despairing at the idiocy of our species, I feel fucking great. Every time I make a mistake in my life, I think back to the guy who showed up with his severed thumb in a cup of ice cubes post hedge trimmer accident, and I think "At least I'm not that guy." Lately I've been wondering if that's healthy. Focus: From what things/events do you draw your self esteem? What rules do you abide by to maintain your self esteem? Do you work out to look good? Do you get a secret thrill when a colleague fucks something up and you are called on to fix it? Would you work harder for a boss that gave you bonuses in private, or praised you in public without the financial reward? Do you like when other guys hit on your smokin' hot girlfriend? Ladies, do you seek men out that your friends would envy?