I'm a tad more than 6. I like to start with my mouth on a girl. I've found that if you work to get the girl off first, then you might as well be wielding a baseball bat between your legs. Oh, and I always feel her out to see if dirty talk is her thing. If I can get her off with my tongue, then direct her into dirty talk, the size debate is nullified. Yet, some chicks are all about the big dicks. They get off on their presence same as we like big-ass jugs. I used to room with a guy who could've retired rich doing porn. Once I walked past his door and heard a chick yelling, "Jesus Christ! You're splitting me in two!!!" Yet he confided most chicks couldn't take him and complained of being sore, leaving him to beat off after they'd left. I had a pretty hot relationship with an older woman I'm sure had way more experience than I. She told me she didn't like 'big, dumb dicks' and preferred the way I'd got into her head while pleasuring and fucking her. Ultimately, a guy can't change his size and so must sally forth, fucking or not.
I've had girls tell me to stop because I was too much, and had some of the dread toothy blowjobs. On the other hand, I've fit fine into other girls. I'm just going to assume I'm above average, I don't have a fistcock but I'm well endowed enough to not be embarrassed about it. And as for girls, as long as I don't need my machete to chop through your jungle, it's probably fine. The majority I've been with have kept it completely clean, and I never really had a problem with it, but just keeping it tidy is fine.
How did I miss this thread?! As far as women, I need the region trimmed. There have been some scary roast beef curtains that I just could not lick. Now for men. I have had too big, it was painful. I am naturally well lubricated and this guy was still like getting fucked with the wide end of an ancient baseball bat. Disturbingly, he seemed to really get off on battering me with it. (rough stuff is fun, when on the same page. I was 18 and a bit naive to the whole situation.) I have been with too small, where despite the enthusiasm and willingness, I needed extra stimulation to get off, like being on top so I could grind my clit against his pubic bone. In the end for me, the best sex EVER is being with my current man. He is about 7 or 8" and so very skilled. The best is that it isn't some kind of race to try to come before my partner blows. I am guaranteed to have at least 5 O's before he gets off. He seems to relish every moment of sex, which many men don't, in my experience. Part of our phenomenal sex likely has to do with the fact that we really are in tune to each other, there is genuine love for each other. Alt Alt Focus: What do you do to keep from cumming too fast? My boy thinks of Oprah, which cracks me up because all I picture is her saying something about her "vajajay" or whatever godawful slang she coined.
Practice. When I haven't been getting any for a while, it's gonna be fast at first. When I'm getting it on the regular, it's not a problem. Or, usually about 5 beers will get me right in the zone where I could go either way.
This is true. It's almost like your value as a male with staying power is determined by the need to pleasure willing females... Otherwise you're best jerking off to animae. Which is to say it's hard not to cum right away after a long time of loneliness.
Mental tricks can work (I think of a nice dinner with friends or family...not only is it wholly un-sexy, but it switches my brain to thinking about a basic urge that doesn't involve my penis), but I find having some ball control works much better. By that I mean, learning to breathe and relax my lower stomach/crotch area, lessening the pressure to cum. I stay plenty hard but it makes me throb less, and lets me focus more on what's working for the girl. In the right mood, if I do it right, and I'm not backed up, I can literally go as long as she wants. Being on the bottom helps a bunch too. So does being drunk. I've had nights with significant others where I actually spent nearly two hours inside them. We aren't full out fucking the whole time -- we talk, massage, have a drink -- but it's really hot (and wet), and nothing short of chloroform can provide a deeper sleep (afterwards).
Usually changing positions buys me a couple more minutes. I would never resort to thinking about gross or weird things to distract my mind—that basically ruins the whole point of sex to me. But, thankfully, cumming too quickly has never been a problem for me. Like a couple others here have said, I always last a long time the first few times with a new girl as I learn what gets her off, which positions work best based on the way things feel, etc. The first 5 times or so are about exploration, after that I have a pretty solid command of how long I last. Focus: I'm a bit above-average and it has its ups and downs (heyyyoooo). There have been 4 women where some positions were off-limits because of my size. I've only slept with 10 women, so that is like a 40% rate of attrition. But, all things considered, it's definitely better than being on the small side. That said, any prowess I might have is due exclusively to paying attention to what the girl wants, and figuring out how to give it to her. Size is like a multiplier for whatever skills you already have, doesn't bestow any skills in and of itself. I think being in good shape does more for being good at sex than dick size—and at least that's something you have control over.
I've never heard it put that way. Awesome. Except to me the battle is more mental than physiological. Guess I don't see the positioning of testicles circumventing the lie in your head that tells you not to cum too fast.
A scotch on the rocks and two beers. I'm good for like 45 minutes after that. The mental shit never works for me. No matter how much I think of grandma, in the back of my mind I'm still enjoying the shit out of every sensation that's happening. My thoughts are like this: Ok, thinking of grandma [damn this pussy feels good] Thinkin' about grandma [damn this pussy feels good] Grandma Grandma Grandma [pussy pussy pussy] .....Grandma.... [holy shit she's getting tight] Dead grandma [pussy] grandma fucking grandpa [squeezing] ok, dead grandpa! [pussy....wet...can't...any....longer....] FIN
There are so many things wrong with this, I think I'm just going to leave it alone before some of the ick rubs off on me. As for the question, just another time being a girl is a good thing. We don't have to hold anything back because if we do, we can just do it again.
Judge if you want. What it boils down to is that nothing, not dead babies, not grandma, not picturing fucking holocaust footage could distract me from how good sex feels. The wiring between my dick and brain is too strong to be clouded by anything. Maybe if I just said that instead of blending grandma and great pussy into one strange vignette it wouldn't have offended your delicate sensibilities. But where's the fun in that?
The actual term for it is Delayed Ejaculation and generally comes from jerking off too much or a having some sort of mental block. That said, I've got the ol' delayed ejaculation myself and it's an interesting thing. I've had partners that have, over the length of the relationship, become depressed and developed complexes because they cannot get me off. I I've found a lot of women find pride in the fact that they can get guys to blow their load in three thrusts and it gives them a power trip. There has only been one lady who has managed to make me blow in less than fifteen minutes and she had the tightest, smoothest vagina I have ever laid eyes upon or defiled. I enjoy the size of my pork sword, I've been complemented on it's length and girth - which, is a massive ego boost, ladies - and I'm a little larger than average. It's really all about the motion of the ocean, not the size of your yacht. As for vagina, I like them with little hair; bush is terrible but as long as it's trimmed, I'm quite okay with it. I've also had issues with vagina direction, I've got a bit of a bend to me and one of my ex's could only work in certain positions, otherwise it would just be uncomfortable. With other women, they would have no issues. Vaginas vary as much as dick does in terms of physical differences.
Fixed that right up for you. I'm average size, average girth but I'd like to think I've got bedroom skills to put me above most guys. I've had a good number of girls (40 range) and have only had a couple girls that I couldn't get off after a second or third time around. First time around is experimenting, figuring out what she likes and what she can take. The second round is refining that and the third (if needed) is more refining. My current girlfriend has some curtains, but nothing outrageous. I don't mind them much, and she seems to get a little more stimulation at first when I play around with the outside a bit. My question though is in regard to squirting. I remember on the old board, the porn star saying that it's extremely rare for girls to squirt or gush. In my experience though, I've had probably ten of the girls I've been with completely soak the sheets. Like monsoon drench. Doesn't happen all that often, but I want some lady input as to whether there's a difference between coming and sheet soaking. Obviously things get wetter when everything's going well, but these girls were like swimming pools. I was soaked from thigh to upper stomach.
Yes & no. There can be too much of a good thing, and one of those, "Uh, is it in yet?" moments. In college I ended up with the latter. I think that his pubes were literally longer (see below). Kinda drunk, tried to give him head, kept trying not to laugh, which I tried to cover by a cough, which made him ask me, "Am I choking you?" My reply, "Nope, hairball, and I have to pee." Went to the bathroom, lied & said I just started my period so I couldn't sleep with him. Think of the pinkie story already mentioned. And yes, there is too large. I'm tilted (trust me, even my gyno tells me), narrow hips that are tilted as well (I can sit with my butt on the ground, knees on either side, and lean forward and put my elbows on the ground, tried to google images it, I can't find one!), so with one guy that I hooked up with at a conference several years ago it was literally, "No, you can't put any more in, you're hitting bottom and it HURTS!" I looked like I had been horseback riding for two weeks the next morning by the way I walked... Having had this discussion with other female friends, one mentioned a mutual friend of ours and said he was like two cans of tuna stacked up. Great for the first two inches, but that was it. Poor girl... and him. IMHO, average is fine by 90% of most women. Because 90% of males are "average", average being 5.5-6". My SO is slightly above average, where certain positions will become painful if we keep going to long, then we just switch. Talent does come into play as well. I've been with guys both smaller & larger than him that just don't have his... technique, shall we say. It's not all about get in, back & forth, get off. There's nights it's 2-3 hours with smoke breaks, drink breaks, yes, even pee breaks, so I am truly blessed. PS - if you keep it well trimmed/shaved, it DOES look bigger, honest! Not to mention I hate inhaling pubes, and hairballs. As far as ugly on women, sorry, haven't checked a lot out. But I do keep shaved, and no way on the 11 yo look. I keep my landing strip so I at least have something there. Although when he helps that seems to get smaller.