Not sure if this belongs in this thread but not sure where else it would go. This is about two close friends of mine. I've known him for 25+ years and her almost 20 years. The back story is that he's always been the guy who had attractive GF's and has never preferred curvier women. While he was in the military, he met his now wife who was about 130 lbs (played sports all through HS) and while he was gone for ~6 months at a time, she was lonely and used food as comfort. Each time he came home, she was a little bit larger going from a wedding weight of around 135 lbs to about 200 lbs and that's when it sounds like they stopped having sex. She stayed around that weight for a number of years, slowly gaining until eclipsing 300lbs (306 according to her) and that's when she had gastric bypass done and has lost over 100 lbs so far. You can just look at her face and see how much more confident she feels. Does her hair, cuter clothes etc. That's why I was blown away to hear that they haven't had sex in ~12 years. On top of that, they haven't even seen each other naked in that time. I know that sex doesn't make a relationship, but I can't imagine not having sex from my late 20's through the rest of my life. Like many middle aged couples, my wife and I may go a month without sex and then fuck like rabbits for a week and I truly feel that being intimate brings a closeness that we don't feel otherwise. I guess that brings me to the point of this post; Do you honor your vow of "for better or worse, sickness or in health", stay by her side and just live a sexless life? Or, be a piece of shit for leaving your wife and looking for someone that you're attracted to?