How about going to a stand up comedy show? Laughter is always good, and you could grab drinks/dinner before or after the show.
What is up with you people that are throwing out ideas where conversation is out of the question. Are you so uninteresting that you have to go on a date where conversing is discouraged? It's a first fucking date, you are supposed to get to know the person. No wonder so many of you fucks bitch about not being able to get laid. Conversation is a lost art.
In my experience, bowling is among the worst for a first date. When you're bowling 1-on-1, someone is always bowling, and someone is always watching, meaning you're never really talking about anything meaningful. Conversation is limited to competitive quips and witty one liners as you pass each other from the floor to the lane, over and over again. Yes, quick hitters can be great, but only in moderation. After an hour or so of this same runaround, conversation gets tiresome and stale. I mean, yeah, I guess I can see how the physical interaction could help, but forced hugs and awkward high fives with strangers has never been real popular for a reason. Pitchers of beer may help drastically, however. I'm with Frebis. In general, stick with activites/plans that encourage conversation instead of silently sitting aside one another, constantly fretting about if the other person is having a good time. The idea is to sell this selected girl on your personality, not let the activity itself be the focus.
Who needs words when your body can do the talking? SGEDIT: DO NOT CLICK THAT LINK PEOPLE. SERIOUSLY DON'T DO IT. IT'S GROSS. SCREW YOU FRANK! Spoiler I was serious. Don't do it. You have been warned. NSFW
Spoiler += My go to is coffee or a drink for a first date, but I have been told more than once that that's "weak". One time I was taking a girl to dinner, but the place we'd wanted was closed so we wound up getting some pizza to go hopping a fence into a graveyard to eat it. Probably not the kind of thing you'd admit to planning but it was fun. Have you got a butterfly house near you? There's benches, you could do picnicish in there if you want to, and if you're boring, everyone likes butterflies!
Putt Putt Golf is fun too! In the summer time I take dates to play putt putt outside on one of those courses that resemble a mountain. In the winter I do glow putt on occasion. Just make sure you dont have any sex stains on your clothes. It is an activity, almost everyone is on an even playing field. You can quip back and forth, have a conversation, etc. Edit- To whomever suggested rock climbing. Are you sure she is athletic and a good climber? That shit is pretty intimidating if she cant get 5 feet of the ground. Great date idea! The same with the snowboarding. What if she doesnt know how to snowboard? She is going to spend the day falling on her ass. Not my idea of a fun time. Im an avid snowboarder. I will only take them once I know they are interested and can trust me to teach them a thing or two. But once again, that isnt a conversing activity.
The only thing gayer than this idea is your excessive use of exclamation points. On that note, how about you take the girl to a Brazilian Jiu Jitsu class? She will think it's cute when you put her in a rear naked choke and she feels a little poke coming through the Gi. And if she doesn't, squeeze tighter. Impressing a girl with a neat idea somebody concocted on the internet isn't going to get you laid. The only rules for a first date are: 1) go somewhere you can openly talk 2) talk If you convince this girl you are some kind of badass because you took her skydiving and shared an aged bottle of wine in mid air while quoting Kierkegaard, she is still going to laugh when you show her your tiny penis and lack of interesting features.
My favorite date for two was a ride on my motorcycle up to some scenic spot in the mountains. It was always fun, exciting, and the girls sometimes really got off on it.
Take her to an arcade and/or go cart racing. Something, fun that will make her laugh yet there's enough time you can still interact with her. After take her to coffee, food, drink, wtfever. If the date continues to go well and you're getting a good vibe, tell her you're having a lot of fun with her and ask if she'd be interested in a movie or the beer tasting (look into it beforehand obviously). You guys make it so hard, you overthink this shit and then are all noided out about it when the date finally comes and end up acting all weird or creeper-like because you're so worried if she's having a good time. Go with the flow man, be yourself and enjoy her company. LISTEN to her when she speaks. I know it's hard but it will pay off. Hopefully there will be a second date. And Frebis is right, no wonder so many of you bitch and moan about not getting any. RELAX.
Take her to a gun range, it is a fun thing to do. Just a few pointers though. 1. do not shoot at targets of furry little animals 2. do not be a poor sport when she shoots better than you 3. do not rent a cannon that is un pleasant to shoot
Cookies? Fuck that. I like to get her to help me put together a nice Irish Famine Stew. Pretty much get every meat and vegetable in the house and throw it in a pot. Rotting carrots? My ancestors would and did kill to have rotting carrots in their stew, throw that funny looking Mushroom in while your at it. Seriously though, you can't beat a good famine stew with fresh ingredients, however the 4-6hours it takes to boil might make for a long first date. However once she's started helping she'll feel bad if she leaves before it's finished. So you've got her captive in a way.
The 3x3x3 date is fool proof. Act encouraging, pleasant and responsive. Listen to what she has to say, don't just stare at her mouth and wait for it to stop moving before you offer your opinion. . Ask her open ended questions that require some analysis and discuss: Her opinion on same-sex marriage and what is the number one reason gays are going to hell and why? Slavery, should it return? - and from 1 to 80, how many lashes should have MLK received? Is date-rape really that bad, what if it leads to pregnancy and marriage, is it bad then? After she loosens up, try to increase the amount of physical contact between you two by very casually pulling out the Twister board game. If she doesn't want to play, that's fine too. Slowly, like over 30 minutes, take off your pants. Very slowly, remember that. Then very very slowly undo her bra (from over her shirt) that should take like 45minutes by itself. Then ever-so-slightly place your penis in her mouth, this is very delicate because if you do it too fast she'll notice something and the jig will be up. Take your time with this part, do it over the last two hours... just slowly bring you penis closer to her mouth as she's talking or whatever. Then after all that, when you're driving her home make sure to take a swig from your mickey every time you blast through a yellow or red light. Say it's for good luck. Make sure to lock the doors and look at her menacingly when she seems scared, it'll calm her nerves to see you play-act so well. You'll get a second date (Holocaust museum, followed by a skeptical analysis at starbucks) and a third (City morgue, say you're looking for you've been long-lost brother and you had a vision last night) just as easily if you lay a good foundation on the first date.
The best first date advice I was ever given, I will give to you now: Basically, pick something you can do that's enjoyable, allows for conversation, but where you aren't the primary focus. A long walk? A hike? No way. What happens when you run out of things to talk about half an hour in? What happens when you take her to the spot in the woods where you killed your last victim, and the police tape is still there? How are you going to walk around in that gorilla suit for that long? (Come on, we're on page 3, and I didn't see a gorilla suit comment.) Oh, one last tidbit: Don't try. I know it's hard. It's damn near impossible. But do not try. Ever notice how when you have a girlfriend, girls are a lot more into you? That's because you don't give a shit. Most of the times a date goes bad is because the guy is trying super hard to make sure every single minute is a masterpiece. It isn't going to happen. You want to be somebody she can have fun with, but you don't want to be her entertainment. Mini-golf, bowling, that kind of thing. And, if you are an avid bowler or whatever, leave your bowling shirt, personalized ball and custom made shoes at home. Don't pay attention to the score. Pay attention to the girl. Put every third shot into the gutter. Other advice: Wash your damn car. Check your tires. Full tank of gas. Vacuum that motherfucker. Iron your clothes. Look like you've got your shit together. Having to stop for gas or having shit in your car makes her think you just don't give a fuck about your time together.
I'd like to suggest the complete opposite. If it's cold, go there. I've gotten more action from girls that are cold than girls that are comfortable. Maybe it's because they're just saying they're cold as a ploy, maybe they really are cold and the contact just leads from one thing to another, then again maybe it's just that I'm a human radiator that's only comfortable when the bite of frigid air is tangible, who knows? I guess if you're unlike me this would be bad advice, but I still think a good first date should involve huddling together for warmth in an impromptu igloo while the wreckage of your car gradually sinks into the snowbank. Remember to bring one of your smaller, weaker friends in case the date runs long and you wind up being together for breakfast as well as dinner for a few weeks. Edit: I can't agree more. The whole point of a first date is to figure out if the other person is interesting and not-insane enough to want to spend time with on a regular basis. How the hell do you showcase that you're a worthwhile human being if you're stuck sitting together for an hour unable to talk? Edit Edit: Unless you're both deaf, and/or pros at sign language, and just want to hit up a place where people are too distracted to notice you're stealing their wallets, food, and loose clothing. Then I guess these are ok date ideas.
Protip: If you have social anxiety, why not try a long-distance date? That way you can come off as cool, confident, and relaxed without having to squirm within arms reach of your intimidating date. Personally I've found a lot of my dates have ended well when my date and I were separated by the scope of my tranquilizer gun. If anyone's interested in becoming a Casanova like me, it only costs about 2 grand.
This is one of the best ideas I've ever done. Around DFW, we have a place called Putt Putt Mini Golf. We also have another place which is similar called Speed Zone which also has drag racing of miniature top fuel dragsters. There is also Main Event which depending on which one you go to also has indoor climbing, laser tag, billiards, arcades, and other fun stuff to do. Another good first date idea is going out to a place which has excellent dessert. NO dinner or anything else. It forces you to talk. We also have a Farmer's Market in Dallas which can be fun. There is also a local vineyard which runs tours which also should be pretty fun. How expensive/cheap do you want to go?
Wear this tshirt. My most successful dates, (ie the ones that end up with me getting laid), have all been to bars. These dates usually involve a couple games of pool, maybe some of the bar trivia games they have going on the TVs, and a couple hours of conversation. The key is to take her to a nicer place where brosefs and frat guys aren't going to be loud and obnoxious. If the date is going well ask if she wants to go somewhere you two can dance. Total this date might cost you $30 and if things aren't working out just get shit-faced, she'll take the hint. Make sure you've got shit to talk about after all the obligatory bullshit questions are out of the way, shit like economics, books you've read, science, stuff going on in the news; the great thing about these kinds of dates is that you don't need to be interesting, you just need to be interested in things. For second, third etc dates I suggest something that'll take out a good chunk of the day. My favorite is going to the coast, walk on the beach, lunch somewhere or have a picnic on the beach. If you have a dog bring it with you. I think a lot of people don't grasp the simple concept, that dating is like a job interview for sex.
Simple is ALWAYS best. Go somewhere public enough that she's not threatened but private enough that you can talk. Have something to do with your hands - drinks to hold, a pool table, whatever - don't just be standing around with nothing to do. Have something to talk about - either the shit that's going on around the space that you're in - or show up with enough personality to carry a conversation. For bonus points - go somewhere within reasonable taxi distance of one of your houses, or stay sober enough to drive - nothing sucks more than deciding that you both really want to fuck and having an hour bus ride home. Getting all fancy with cooking and zoo's and plays and shit is specialist shit - maybe you can make it work for you - maybe it's her thing - but for most people -its specialized beyond necessity and has too much risk of being creepy/weird/boring and puts your strike out odds way too high. A bar or a coffee shop however, works for 90% of people 90% of the time.