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Can someone help me with this?

Discussion in 'Permanent Threads' started by sublime, Oct 20, 2009.

  1. bewildered

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    Ok, so here's a follow up question about the pop up campers.

    I found a 2013 282 XRT Forest River Rockwood Freedom that looks really good. The seller says that the pop up mechanism was replaced last year. What would you do with that info, or what follow up questions etc would you ask? Is that a red flag?
     
  2. wexton

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    Well if they fixed that hopefully they looked after it. Never bought a pop up trailer before, but i would ask if they would be ok with spray it down with a hose to check for leaks.
     
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    Does anyone on here collect old coins? Cleaning out my parents house and found a few things that they had stashed away, and I'm wondering what's the best way to go about seeing if they're worth anything at all.
     
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    I used to collect coins somewhat seriously. Their value is generally related to mint, value and condition. What do you have?
     
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    Mostly some older pennies. Cursory glance at similar items on ebay tells me I may have one that is worth any value, but given the condition it's in compared to others listed, I'm not getting my hopes up.
     
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    I don't know what you have, but yeah, wheat pennies and 1943 steel pennies aren't worth much. The value of those usually comes from mint issues/delays. So if you had a 1944 steel penny, it would be worth a shitload.
     
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    No, nothing like that. Only thing I have that seems to be worth more than a couple of dollars at the most is a 1914-D minted penny.
     
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    OK this is weird and probably inappropriate but....

    Have any of you ever used a reverse phone number lookup/search? They all seem sketchy and I have no idea how reliable they are. But I had a SUPER unsettling call at work which turned into the dude showing up and trying to bully me into giving him what he wanted (which was obviously unreasonable). He refused to give his name and from searching his number it seems to be associated with a storage facility in another state. I'm not sure what I think I'll get out of finding out more info, but what if he has 6 arrests for stalking or something? This is admittedly crazy but maybe you smart internet folks have had to track people down for other reasons and want to help a girl out.
     
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    A few questions, because he may have committed a crime(s) and if that's the case, I would immediately file a police report.

    Did he show up at your house, or at your work location?
    Did he demand something work related?
    How was he bullying? Did he convey or imply threats of violence?
    Are there any security cameras that you have access to that may have recorded him as well as his interaction with you? Same for any that may have recorded his vehicle.
    Any witnesses to his interaction with you?
     
  10. sisterkathlouise

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    He showed up at work, he didn’t make any overt threats, we don’t have security cameras. I don’t think he actually committed a crime, he just had the most serious white male shooter vibes I’ve ever experienced. He mostly did that thing where he kept getting closer to me and talking down to me aggressively and sort of forcing me backwards? And that very gaslighty way of talking like what everyone else is saying is totally crazy and unreasonable even though he was the one being unreasonable. Does that make sense? My coworkers saw him but kind of booked it to the kitchen to listen in but get away from him because they were so creeped out.
     
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    What I bolded above is threatening & intimidating behavior. Depending how the laws are written/applied in your location, that is enough to be considered a criminal act.

    It's worth talking to your local police.

    They likely won't get enough information from you & your coworker to do much more than file a report (depending on the officer they might not even file one, but the fact they talked with you about it will be in their records) and it should at least put him on their radar and establish a pattern if he shows up again.
     
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    Let your security apparatus and your boss at your work know that you were concerned for your safety. Also, yeah, file a report with police. They probably won't do anything at this point, but it's worth keeping them informed. If the guy contacts you again, file for a restraining order if you're able to get any info about him.
     
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    Lol our security apparatus. I work for a little medical clinic, I’m the de facto office manager and my boss is the medical director. Everyone knows what happened and he probably won’t come back, I think in my mind having more info about him would make me feel better. Honestly, filing a police report would make me feel a little silly - the only information I have is his phone number, the first name he gave, and the fact that he’s a creepy but otherwise generic looking 30ish white guy. I wish I had thought to try and see his car or license plate but I was just so relieved when he finally left. It occurred to me like 2 minutes later and by then of course he was gone.
     
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    Not sure if you mentioned it but do you have security cameras anywhere? If you do and have access to them, you could probably get a still frame of him through it to keep record of or show the cops.
     
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    We don’t, we talked about it a while ago because we got some angry emails about providing care to trans patients but ultimately felt like it would feel like an invasion of privacy for our patients more than security for us. Usually it’s a really cozy chill place and we have really strong relationships with our patients.

    This guy called trying to demand that we give him a referral to a specialist but accused us of trying to extort him and saying that it was a racket when we (first my coworker, then i) explained ad nauseum that we cannot provide a referral for someone who isn’t a patient, and to be a patient you have to schedule an appointment and see a doctor. He kept insisting he didn’t want to see our doctors, only a specialist, and I would say “well then it sounds like we can’t help you, I hope you get the care you need”. And shit like that in circles for ages.

    When he showed up he said “Well you told me I needed to be seen! Now you see me, give me the paper!” After trying to be professional for a while I told him he was being willfully obtuse and that my answer wasn’t going to change because he was trying to intimidate me, he denied that’s what he was trying to do but from a distance of definitely not enough feet. Again, on and on in circles until he finally left. Typing it out doesn’t sound as intimidating or bizarre as it was but it wigged us all out pretty badly.
     
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    I am not an expert, but I think you should file a police report. You asked TiB for internet sleuthing advice, which a) we may not have, b) what we do have may be sketchy and it becomes you who committed a crime, not him. What you did get was real advice from AFHokie who knows what's up, based on experience. I would take it and file the report. We may not be able to help you with the sleuthing, but we definitely don't want anything bad to happen to you from ol' weirdy pants.
     
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    You were using your instincts and experience. It's definitely intimidating, especially if you think there's a chance for repeat.
     
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    I do appreciate that, I’m probably being more hesitant to call because the 3 times I’ve called police non emergency in the last 2 years have given me very little faith and they made me feel dumb for calling (twice during power outages for dangerously dark and completely unmarked intersections, once for dogs running in the road that I was afraid would get hit). I live in a safe midsize town, it’s not like I was calling Chicago PD, but they seemed pretty unimpressed with me. But I’ll give it serious thought and maybe call on my way to work today.
     
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    Maybe your boss could call it in? Of course they (police) would want to talk to you but if the head honcho initiates it, they may take it a little more seriously. Also, I certainly hope you have mace or one of those little personal alarms. If not get one or both. You may (we hope) never have to use either but knowing you have them may calm your nerves a little.

    Personally I think if you're in any line of work where you deal with the public, there should be some safety precautions in place because the crazies are everywhere.

    No one should have to look over their shoulder in fear and/or certain situations, but it happens all the time, see above.
     
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    Do not ignore your gut feelings and inner voice.

    Follow through regardless of how badly you think the police will handle it.

    Take minimal personal steps to stack the odds in your favour, as shegirl mentions.

    Don’t obsess on it, or become paranoid… you don’t need to go buy a gun or anything… just recognize that some people can be problems and it’s very reasonable to consider that, think about it a bit, and plan for it to a certain degree.

    Then put it behind you and carry on.


    Did he happen to mention what kind of a specialist he was looking to be referred to?