A buddy of mine is getting back in the dating scene after (finally) getting out of an extensive, useless long-distance relationship. He was out at a social event and seemed to make a connection with a girl who was a distant acquaintance of another guy he knows. She's not quite his type, but he figures that this is a good opportunity to get back on the horse . They start emailing back and forth and it's all going pretty well until he agrees to go out with her on the weekend. Then he gets that email that starts: "I have something I have to tell you, and it's really hard for me to say this so I'll do it in an email instead of in person..." There was more baggage listed in that email than in the Samsonite catalog. Multiple kids, abusive boyfriends, eating disorders, multiple husbands (including one that she was still married to and living with, but "in the process of separating," etc.) etc. etc. To my buddy's credit, he went through with it and went out with her. It was OK, but no spark, so it's unlikely they'll go out again. FOCUS: When have you been baited and switched: made a connection with somebody and everything is going fine, only to have a bomb dropped on you later?  Figuratively, and, he hoped, literally.