Ask an Escort.

Do you get clients who really just want an escort? As in they just to wine/dine/chat you up for an hour or two?

What have you learned about men during your time doing this?

How long is a typical career span for someone working? Do they typically leave on their own or are they forced out due to their age? Do you find that many women leave the job with a hatred for men like it seems most strippers do?

Would you be upset if your hypothetical daughter went into this line of work?

Thanks again for taking the time to answer questions.

 

Have you ever had sex with a client that was as good or better than sex with someone you were seeing in your private life?

You mentioned having a super tight vagina. Has there ever been a client that was just too big for you?

 

Do you engage in recreational drug use? Coke, rolls, or ganja? How about before you're set to meet a client?

 

Is it a liability for someone in your line of work to keep they money they earn in a bank? I'd assume that there's not much banks can do because there's no way to prove how you got the money you're depositing.

 

Seeing as your market is pretty selective, how do you go about getting new clients? Do they just call the agency and describe what they want, and the agency kinda picks you?
And along those lines, how competitive is it?

 

What are your rules for guys cumming? BBBJ for example, do you spit/swallow, take it porn style on the face?, etc.

What happens if the hour is ending and you are in the middle of fucking a guy? Do you tell him time is up? Can he commit to like an extra half hour at that point and keep going?

I would imagine some guys are really cheap, or have an attitude of "I'm getting my money's worth out of this". Do you experience that often? Sort of like a guy you have already blown and fucked, and he still technically has 15 mins left to the hour and wants you to spend it by continuing to blow him, etc?

I have always been of the opinion that prostitution should be legal. After reading this thread, I believe that even more now. You are clearly doing this of your own freewill, and so are your clients. I don't see the harm.

Thanks again for taking the time to respond to all the questions.

 

Here's one -
What's the policy on if a guy were to bring a camera or try and snap a few shots off with a cameraphone?

 

This is the best thread ever! I'm sitting in the library with a boner. A respectful boner, though. A very respectful boner indeed!

Anyway, a question.

Has your perspective of the penis changed any since you started? Does a bigger dick take a bigger tax out of your effort? Are you happier to see a tiny one? Could I, like, uuugh, get a small dick discount?

 

You mentioned you were in Atlanta - have you ever had to service John Fitzgerald Page?

More seriously though, how do you handle the poor hygiene factor? You said they are guaranteed a BBBJ and kissing - if a guy has bad BO, or fetid bad breath, do you ask him to shower/brush, or is that a no no in the business.

 

This is a difficult question to ask because I don't want it to sound at all judgemental, because it's not. I totally understand if you don't want to answer it. That being said- How many sexual partners did you have before you started? How many sexual partners have you had professionally? Do you think that this will change your views on sex and numbers? Do you view your number of clients differently than the number of people you have slept with in a personal, more intimate setting?*




*Personally, I don't give a fuck how many people someone has slept with as long as I'm not exposing myself to a VD roulette wheel every time I bang the same woman, due to her own irresponsible choices, ie- unprotected sex with a random dude from a bar.

 

Do you enjoy the sex at all? I know you talked about creepy armpit licker, and generally just wanting to earn your money and go hom, but how often would you say you lie back and think of England, and how often do you get into it? And, in that vein, how is professional sex different from sex you have on your own time?

 

How are you going to report the income? Are you going to be considered an independent contractor and get a 1099? Or are you for tax purposes an employee with withholdings on your check and a W-2? What do you put down for an occupation on your tax return?

 

Okay, maybe I'm kind of fucked up for even suggesting this**, but hear me out:

You say that your reputation as a sexual services provider is based solely off of customer reviews. TER (The Escort Review), to be precise, is the site that everyone goes to in order to look at evaluations of a girl they may be choosing. One bad review could kill you, and you only have one review.

What is to prevent you from giving yourself a good review? Get a credit card, sign up as "Johnny DingDong" and then review the hell out of yourself. 5 stars or what have you, with a glowing recommendation attached? For that matter, you could technically be kind of bitchy about it and review other girls in your niche market negatively, thus assuring more traffic heads your way. Or if any girl has pissed you off, tell the entire TER community that she has a drug problem or something. Yeah, it's mean. Yeah, it isn't playing by the rules. But from what I can tell, there isn't anything in place to prevent such a thing from happening.


**This was also a plot device on 'Secret Diary of a Call-Girl', based off of Belle du Jour's blog. Her best friend Ben heard about Belle's unfounded bad review and gave her a great one instead.

 

Oddly, I have had one or two of those clients. They just want me to rub their back and ask about their day. Those guys are usually much older and married. When I first started, I was interested to see how my attitude towards men would be affected. Like someone asked earlier, I thought it would be possible that I'd look at every guy as a potential client, and lose the ability to have a successful, meaningful relationship with someone. The biggest thing I've learned, or reinforced rather, is that everybody wants someone who at least acts like they care. I memorize details of my clients' lives, and make sure I bring them up in later sessions, and it's odd in a cute way to see their eyes light up because I remembered. The other thing I've learned is that it seems that older men are so happy and/or grateful to be with someone half their age that's enthusiastic and seemingly happy to be with them, that they really want to please me. I know that's a bit longwinded, but to me, it defeats the purpose of using an escort. I am here to please you. I'm the one getting paid. I don't want to feel like I owe you because you can get me off.

I don't know what the typical career span is. I'd say anywhere from three months to a couple years, though there are providers out there that have been around for several years. Most women leave on their own. There's a lot of drama and a lot of stress, especially emotional, and it does catch up to you. A lot of the women don't get close enough to "retiring age" before burnout catches up with them. Few of us hate men. We're less tolerant of the sketchiness and drama of "normal" relationships in our personal lives because we know we don't need some cheating ass to get laid [I know not all women think this way, but we're better able to avoid the falling in love with a dick syndrome]. Many of our clients do focus on pleasing us, and while it skeeves me out sometimes, the thought is nice, and I certainly don't hate the guys for trying. I don't know how I'll feel if my [non existent as of yet] daughter ever wanted to do this. My little sister, whom I've helped raise, is considering it, and I'm very conflicted. On one hand, I want my sister/child to have everything she wants, and have access to the money needed for that. On the other, it can be very emotionally taxing. It takes a strong person with the ability to compartmentalize to get through this. I think I would say, look, I've been through it, and I completely understand why you want to do it, but fully consider the possible ramifications first. Of course, it's one thing to think about consequences, and another to experience them, but there's only so much I can do. Regardless, I would love my child and do my best to look out for her, whatever her decision. And you're quite welcome.

I have had on-par sex with a couple clients, usually because I enjoy them and their company, so I don't have to try imagining that they're someone else. As girlie as it is, though, I've been both deeply in lust and deeply in love in my personal life, and no client can beat the stupid drunken passionate animal sex that comes from caring so much about someone that you don't care how weird you might look naked, sweaty, and contorted. As far as my vag goes, I had an on and off friends with benefits thing with my best guy friend for six years, and the kid is hung like a fucking donkey, so I can handle the big dicks. It might be uncomfortable, but lube works miracles. I really don't how I don't have a gaping vagina, but that is exactly why it's a blessing from God.

You're welcome to call me either. A few people know my real name, and while it goes without saying, I would prefer that they keep it to themselves. I, myself, was abused as a child by boys not much older than me. It was very uncomfortable and very confusing. It led to me abusing my sister at one point when we were young because I thought that's how it was supposed to be. I blocked a lot of it out for years. I don't think my past has much to do with my current job, though. This job isn't about clients having some sort of power over me. Often, I get to run the session. The pussy holds the power, y'know. I don't disagree with those documentaries - certainly, girls that have been abused may be sexualized early on and convinced that that's all they're good for. But I don't know of a single girl at my agency with a background of abuse or abandonment. We all chose this for the money and the power trip.

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I'm actually planning to write a paper for an anthropological research methods class this semester about women's motivations for entering the adult industry. So [shameless plug], if you have any questions you think would be pertinent for my interviews, please PM me.

I have thought about that. My dream career is to be an epidemiologist for the CDC. The starting salary about matches what I make working 10-15 hour weeks now, and requires a lot of field/volunteer experience in addition to the educational requirements. But I want to have a husband and children one day, and I want them to be able to tell other people what I do for a living. I want to be able to go to my kid's class for Career Day, and not have to lie and say I'm a housewife because I certainly can't tell a bunch of first graders that I have sex for money. And I want my husband to be secure in our relationship, and I don't think that's a remote possibility so long as I have this job. So giving up the money and dedicating more time is worth it, to have that future. And you're welcome! I love it when the ladies ask me questions without being snide.

I do not. I was diagnosed with epilepsy over five years ago, and while I haven't had a seizure in over three, I feel it's best not to tempt fate. I used to smoke a lot of weed in high school, and my neurologist thinks that may have triggered my original seizures. The only drug I would really want to try is acid. I'm fascinated by the human experimentation with it, and I wish I could participate in the reopened trials. Some girls smoke weed before seeing a client. Most of us go sober. Sometimes I wish we could drink beforehand, but showing up drunk to an appointment can get you fired or blacklisted.

I've tried looking into this and what I've found is only marginally helpful. Depositing amounts greater than $5000 within a single day to a single bank [even spread over multiple branches] raises red flags. The teller is required to notify some sort of security commission because it could be drug or terrorist activity. If enough red flags are raised, the IRS can get involved and audit your account. Doing what I do, I don't get a W2 or 1099, so I would have to file as self-employed, which means filing taxes every three months instead of every twelve. It's all way too complicated for me, and my parents still claim me as a dependent, so I just deposit a couple hundred in my account every week for gas, bills, and general expenses, and hoard the rest for my new car.

Most agencies have websites, so the clients can view us before booking. TER is also helpful, because you can search specific markets, and all reviews are required to link the girl's ad or agency website, so potential clients can see what we look like. It's both competitive and not. We generally cater to older, upper middle class white guys. Meaning long hair, few to no visible piercings or tattoos, and the ability to look elegant and non threatening in public. A couple of the girls keep their hair short, and they suffer for it. Girls with facial piercings rarely do well, either. When fully clothed, I look conservative. No visible tattoos, only a couple ear piercings. I think it gives me an edge that, as soon as the clothes come off, I'm a completely different story. A lady in the street, but a freak in the bed, so to speak.

Generally, I'll swallow. Look, once it's in my mouth, it's in my mouth. Why spit it out? Then I have drool on my chin, along with God knows what else. A couple clients are allowed to cum on my back or stomach if they so choose. I'm on a consistent hormonal birth control shot, so any spillage shouldn't [and hasn't] been an issue. I don't take it in the face because chances are it would get in my hair. Cum is hard to get out of hair, especially when you have as much as I do. I subtly watch the clock and try to keep things moving. Usually a few "Cum for me, baby"s works about fifteen minutes before time's up. Most guys are good at watching their time, though, so I usually don't have to worry about it. As long as I don't have another client coming in or somewhere to be, like school, clients are welcome to pay for an extra half hour or hour if they choose. I think some guys are cheap and do have that attitude. Dude, if you like me so much that you see me once a week, you'd better be willing to pay for the pussy. If you want a $50 blowjob, there are plenty of girls on Craigslist that'll take care of that for you. Don't come to me. I'm expensive, but well worth it. Most guys actually want to get up and out once they're done, but I'm happy to sit around and chat or go for a second round, so long as it's a quickie. Multiple pops is one of my "extra mile" things. Thanks for the support.

Armpit Guy is like that. As I said above, I'm happy to hang out and talk or go for a second round. You paid for your time, use it wisely. We don't do strip teases, but we do 2+ girl shows. Same rules apply, though. Most of us won't do anal. There are rarely multiple guys involved - I've never seen more than one at a time. I'm sure toys could be brought into the session, but it would need to be discussed beforehand so I know what's expected of me.

I've let one guy do this, and he's an awesome, pleasant client that pays $1100 to see me for 3 hours once a week, so I'm willing to allow it. Beyond that, I'm not okay with it. There's just no telling where those pictures might end up, and I'm already taking a huge risk as it is, so I prefer that clients just be happy with getting to see the real thing, then remembering it later.

I've only been doing this for a month, but I've been sexually active for over 7 years, so I've seen plenty of dicks. I like top-of-the-bell-curve dicks in both my private and professional life. Obviously, lube helps things enormously, and can make big dicks just as comfortable as regular ones. Sometimes, I am excited to see the teeny peenies. You can't choke me with a small dick, and that's great for me. Seriously, guys, don't choke girls with your dick! It's not fun to gag and heave. And no, no small dick discounts, because you still get the same amount of attention. More, probably, since I don't have to map out a plan of fellatio when you take your pants off.

Sorry, I've never even had a john named John. Incalls are easy for this - we can suggest or even insist on a shower beforehand. Mouthwash is also provided. Outcalls are tougher, because that's the client's territory. Personally, unless I'm just dying, I'll stick it out, then take a long shower and several drinks afterward. I've been pretty lucky so far. One girl said when she went down on a client, she could taste urine on him. I'm not sure how she knows what urine tastes like, but still. Gross.

Before I started, I had had 17 partners over 7 years, and I've had one more in my personal life since I started. Three were one night stands, and only one of those wasn't someone I knew long before that night. The exception was a friend of several of my friends, and he was visiting for the weekend. The rest were either boyfriends or long term friends with benefits. I don't know how many partners I've had since I started. It's not something I want to consider, since the number can be staggering. One of my friends estimates that she's had over 60 since she started around September of last year. I would estimate 10 for myself, since I deal mostly with regulars. I was never judgmental to begin with. Sex is fun, just be safe. I don't care how many people you've fucked, though I might tease you a bit if the number is astronomical. But as long as you aren't diseased or someone's baby daddy, I'm fine with everyone's history. I ignore my client number precisely because I never want it to come up in my personal life. If any subsequent boyfriend asks me how many partners I've had, I can honestly tell him I don't know and leave it at that.

I LOVE LOVE LOVE SEX. I never worked out in high school, and some bitchy girl speculated that the reason I never gained weight was that I fucked so much. If I like the person I'm with, I love sex. Absolutely. There's not a better way to enjoy an hour or two. That being said, I'm normally not attracted to my clients, and that makes it tough. Which is why I try to imagine them as someone else, usually Charlie Hunnam. I get into it with a couple clients, the fun ones. Even if they're not so hot, if I can tell that they're a kid in a candy story, I can enjoy myself because I know that my enthusiasm will make their experience better. My personal sex, though, is hella better than my professional sex. There are no time constraints, and there's a mutual attraction. I'm not shy about making suggestions during personal sex. And if I'm tired of sucking your dick, I'll tell you it's time to fuck for a while. I don't worry that what I want might clash with what my partner wants during personal sex. During professional sex, my wants aren't even on the table.

As I noted above, I'm supposed to file as self employed, since I receive neither a W2 nor a 1099 [How awkward would it be to ask a client to fill out a 1099 form for me at the end of an appointment?]. However, my parents still claim me as a dependent, so until I go to an accountant and figure out how the hell to handle all this, I'm just going to be an unemployed student for tax purposes. I'm not trying to cheat the government or place any additional burden on the hardworking citizens that actually pay taxes, I just need time to figure it all out. Tax code eludes me.

TER is great about double and triple checking that stuff. They check with providers or agencies to make sure that the appointment actually occurred, which keeps nasty girls or angry exes from posting false reviews. If a girl with a history of good reviews suddenly gets a bad one, the admins will take it down until it's been looked into. Discrepancies, like high rankings paired with a low opined summary or vice versa, are heavily reviewed and corrected. They also check IP addresses, so they can make sure that a provider isn't posting glowing reviews of herself. There are ways around it, but it's a hassle, and I'd rather just be a great provider and generate good reviews. A couple providers make a point to mention TER to their clients to kind of nudge them in that direction, but I feel that's too much. I have a good client base, and I make great money, so good reviews are just the icing on the cake.

 

What makes the difference between a $50 craigslist blowjob and a $4000/hr New York State Governor Special? Is it purely looks? Marketing? Sex related skills? Non sex related skills? Presentation?

 

If/when you decide to "settle down," do you intend to discuss your escort history with your fiance/husband? Do you see yourself ever reaching a point where you disclose this history to the rest of your family (like once you're out of the business)?

Again, thank you tremendously for your time, patience, and good, honest nature in answering these questions. You sound like you have the right mentality going into this, so good luck.