Ditto for getting kissed on the forehead. It's different for every guy. I appreciate a good ass, strong but slender legs and those subtly-defined v-lines are enough to drive me insane (if you have these, I will spend all hours tracing them). As far as the lesbian thing goes, it takes up most of my porn consumption as well. Though I have no desire for a threesome of either MMF or FFM variety, I like how a lot of lady porn is more focused on foreplay which is a major turn-on for me. The second a strap-on comes into view, the video is switched.
This is a fairly common issue, and it requires a fairly broad generalization to explain it. Women are usually more lateral thinkers, gathering info and processing it for storage; Men are usually more vertical thinkers, gathering info in order to solve problems. We sometimes can't help ourselves. We are assuming that you wouldn't be presenting us with your problems if you didn't want some input on them. If we can think of a way to make the situation you're worried about better, why would we NOT tell you? Also, you see what I just did? I noticed it as I was typing. You didn't ask for clarification on the issue, or a way to understand it. Yet I felt the need to explain it. As every hack comedian ever has pointed out, it seems Men and Women are different.
Agreed. I can't comprehend "venting." I can see talking about something angrily in an attempt to find a solution, but I rarely talk about things that upset me just to yell about them unless they are really, really, really pissing me off.
Sometimes I think that there is something wrong with me because I would consider myself to be a more logical "vertical" thinker. I am prone to being emotional but I am usually aware of the fact and control it pretty well. For instance, Aunt Flo started a couple days ago, and last week I drove home and just burst into tears, so I simply went to my room and waited for the anguish to pass. I also do really well on spatial type tests that men usually excel at. Obviously men and women cannot be compartmentalized into two categories of characteristics, but I've often wondered if my personality and way of looking at things is nature or nurture.
Hey, lesbian kissing is still awesome to watch, it's just so fucking fake. Those same chicks aren't going to be scissoring each other later on. They do it when guys aren't buying them drinks and when girls aren't buying their albums. Facts for Guys: If your wife/girlfriends asks (not tells) you not to do something, DON'T DO IT. It may seem trivial to you, but to Vagino-Americans it is not. If she doesn't want you to be in the room with her when she puts make-up on, you don't HAVE to know why, just don't do it! Why would you want to watch, anyway? It's like sneaking backstage to watch the magician shove the doves into his suit. Facts for Women: There's no reason for us to watch your stupid movies, so don't make us. There is no straight man on earth that wants to watch a 2.5 hour costume drama about a man and woman yearning to, but never actually having, a relationship. These are movies you go to see with your other female friends. Do that. If it's a comedy that doesn't have Julia Roberts or Matthew McConnAbs in it, chances are that we'll be in. To Everyone: Nobody has to get married if they don't fucking want to. It is not some written mission in logic that must be done so Baby Jesus doesn't piss his golden Huggies and your babies aren't born with devil tails. Some people are butchers and some are bakers. Some are also night security guards in an out-of-the-way mall.
As far as "understanding" women goes; the following blog (and the comments sections) has been a revelation. <a class="postlink" href="http://roissy.wordpress.com/" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;">http://roissy.wordpress.com/</a> If only it had been around when I was in my early 20's.
To the guys, are you clever enough to purposefully look like an idiot when doing a relatively simple task so we will get frustrated, take over, and never ask you to do it again, or are you really that stupid? (you are an engineer but can't figure out how to boil minute rice comes to mind)
No, but you are to fall for that every time. Of COURSE it's so we don't have to do it again. That's the point.
The only pressure I feel is internal; I don't have friends or family pointing at their watches and asking open-ended questions or anything. I feel the clock ticking, big time. It's weird, because prior to a catastrophically bad three-month period health-wise in my 28th year, I really had no desire either way about children. Then the switch got flipped, and there it is. It leads me to suspect that it's all hormonal and not necessarily what I really want, just what the primal part of my brain is demanding. It's tough because I'm at a crossroads right now career-wise. If I pull the trigger and ask for help getting the really great job that would suit me well, then I can't very well work at it for two years and drop it to go have children. The big paying jobs in construction are mostly in camps, away from civilization. I haven't figured out how to have dogs, kids and a husband and also be living in an ATCO trailer in Ft. McMurray or Saudi Arabia. These are the thoughts I ponder while watching TV. I think guys watch television differently.
Are you fucking kidding me? That website has to be the biggest piece of shit I've ever seen. If you're actually paying attention to this guy, god help you. He's such a transparent, posturing, loser that it's not even funny. 100% guaranteed this is written by a bitter guy with misspent youth, a neckbeard, and the respect of ZERO women in his life. Blind leading the blind I suppose... So much there to make fun of. I'm astounded really. Once again, this has been "Totally Not The Point", with your host, Poopourri. Sorry for the thread hijack.
No, I kid you not. Think what you like. Pick whichever silly examples that you like. Roissy's blog contains more truth and honesty and dispels more bullshit that just about anything else I have ever read about women and male-female dynamics etc.
I always wondered what would happen if Holden Caufield reached middle age and decided to blog. Honesty, yes. But that's because the author is honestly bitter, cruel, simple-minded, and misogynist. He 'understands' women just like David Duke understands black people, or female rom-com characters 'understand' men.
Oh god. Roissy is a mysogynistic douche who has taken a bunch of PUA concepts and psychology 101 and wraps it in stupidity, bullshit, loathing of women and general obnoxiousness. After Gunwitch (proponent of the 'make the ho say no' tactic), he is about the worst person to maintain an audience. He trades on the fact that so many of the morons who need his advice have immense bitterness and resentment towards women after a lifetime of social awkwardness. If there was a just and loving god, Roissy would have gotten cancer before he ever found the intarwebs. If you really, really, really have to go to PUA douchebags for advice, there is some really genuine and plausible advice coming from the Natural game proponents. Especially out of the UK. Richard La Ruina is one of the less reprehensible PUA's speaking on how to pick up without being a douche.
Then show me. Give me an example of the "truth and honesty" that you think this guy is serving up to the masses. I just find it hard to believe that someone is capable of truthful social commentary when everything is filled with this false bravado and pretension. It's just fake as hell to me.
I'm failing to see the "understanding" on that site. I only understand that I want to unscrew the guy's head that writes on it and then drop-kick it through some goalpost uprights. Lame lame lame lame lame. There are a billion angry assholes with a billion angry, mundane blogs like this. There are 100 poeple on this site alone that could write better than that clown.
So, in an attempt to re-rail... Both, but mostly the former. There are genuinely times when I can't do something as simple as finding the ketchup in the fridge door, but I also don't vacuum very well on purpose, and I leave water spots on the glasses.
Lots of people are deluded into believing that only humans that have dicks are capable of at-home fuck ups. No, women never put away damp clothes or empty drink jugs in the fridge. Oh wait a minute, yes they do. And men are usually better at vacuuming because we can reach better and we have the strength to hold the 5,000 pound Kirby on the staircase. Honestly, what's difficult about using a vacuum? It's pretty much the easiest thing in the entire world to do.
Okay, but what if you are doing something egregiously wrong (or someone else is doing something wrong), and you don't realize it? I had this problem with my ex-wife constantly (hell, sometimes I still do), and I have noticed it with other women I have dated as well. Here's an oversimplified example: Woman: "My friend/boss/coworker/family member/usual clerk at Starbuck's is doing something that really pisses me off, and I don't know what to do!" Me: "Well, have you tried talking to them, or someone who could actually do something to remedy the situation?" Woman: "Uuuuuuhhhhhhhhh................." (eyes drift skyward, with mouth agape) OR: "That wouldn't do any good!" Maybe it's because I have dealt with a lot of passive-aggressive women, but that has been my experience.
I'd like to avoid adding to the trainwreck derailment, but seriously, for the love of god, if you felt anything other than horror and disgust reading Roissy's bullshit - check out some other view points for less awful inforamtion. Richard La Ruina - <a class="postlink" href="http://www.puatraining.com/" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;">http://www.puatraining.com/</a> - is not a complete douche and his natural game stuff is so very much less obnoxious than the canned game bullshit that morons like Mystery and Roissy advocate. Clarisse Thorn - <a class="postlink" href="http://clarissethorn.com/blog/" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;">http://clarissethorn.com/blog/</a> - Is generally awesome. The comments threads on her blog are where I go to have conversations with adults after talking to idiots here. Her blogroll list of links is an excellent place to start for a much, much better set of insights into the kind of shit Roissy babbles bullshit about. Feminist Critics - <a class="postlink" href="http://www.feministcritics.org/blog/" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;">http://www.feministcritics.org/blog/</a> - Run by PUA's - I don't agree with everything they say/do - but they're so very much more ethical than Roissy. Hugo Schwyzer - <a class="postlink" href="http://hugoschwyzer.net/" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;">http://hugoschwyzer.net/</a> - Hugo is smart, and while I don't agree with all of his opinions, and if you like Roissy you certainly won't like all of his stuff - well worth reading. The Good Men Project - <a class="postlink" href="http://goodmenproject.com/" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;">http://goodmenproject.com/</a> - lots of hippy bullshit, but some of their regular writers are genuinely awesome people. And a lot of what they post is worth thinking about. Engineer brain is a bit like a disability. It requires spending so much time using your brain in a way that is so alien to the way most people think, that you can't avoid ending up ... a little different. Engineers and IT people are probably responsible for a majority of highly functioning Asperger's sufferers in the world today and Engineers are the only people in the world more fucked up as a group than computer geeks. The simple task thing is I think taking the single mindedness thing to an extreme. Lots of guys I know not only aren't great at multitasking, but aren't great at focusing on a second thing at once. If they're thinking about something really interesting, even as a background thing, they stop thinking about everything else and fly on autopilot. Autopilot is fine for watching tv, masturbating, drinking beer or possibly even cooking steak - but atypical skills like cleaning or cooking low protein meals are outside of the typical male autopilot skill set. A blow job is like a reset button, where you clear his mind and let him focus on new tasks.
Fuck Roissy. Man, I stopped the thread at that point, then went back, but Poopouri, Scootah, etc. pretty much nailed all of it. This is Roissy's basic advice: If you are an emotionally manipulative asshole, you can manipulate women into having sex with you. Which isn't wrong, but if you're the kind of guy that follows his advice, you were never a nice guy to begin with -- you were just an untrained asshole. Like Scootah, I know a lot of women that go gaga for guy-guy fucking. Not only that, there's a pretty big segment of LESBIANS who like watching gay porn. Gay porn sidesteps a lot of my issues with straight porn -- unfortunately, it replaces them with an insurmountable issue for me, but I get the appeal. I find woman-woman sex hot sometimes, but most mainstream lesbian porn scenes are absolutely terrible. They're usually contrived, overly bright and sanitized. I like women who are both dominant and submissive, and watching lesbian porn allows me to enjoy both of those types at once. Plus most porn where women are in any sort of control of guys involve a whole lot of pain that makes me uneasy.